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WELCOME TO FAMILY-iD!
Family-iD is a four-session video learning experience that challenges families to live with intentional purpose. Far too
often, culture, media, and even those around us try to tell us who we should be. With so many voices attempting to
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this course, you will begin to intentionally lay a foundation that will help ensure success in your most important
ministry—your family!
WHO IS FAMILY-iD DESIGNED FOR?
Family-iD is designed for families who have a desire to live lives of purpose and devotion to one another and to God.
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tools you need to lay a foundation for your children that will shape your family now and for generations to come.
WHAT’S THE FORMAT OF FAMILY-iD?
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each session by discussing the opening question with your group, and then watch the video segment. In this
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discovering your unique family identity.
After the video for each session is over, allow time for group discussion using the questions found in your participant
guide. You can access the videos online at ??? or download them at www.resources.lifechurch.tv.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
SESSION 1: TAKE IT IN
Why have a vision?
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What is your Family iD?
05
Getting your priorities in order
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SESSION 2: STIR IT UP
The interdependent family and the independent family
08
Your core family values.
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SESSION 3: WRITE IT DOWN
Your family vision statement
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Your family mission statement
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Your Family iD
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SESSION 4: LIVE IT OUT
Making the family attractive
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Setting yourself up for success
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Additional Resources
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THE VOICE OF FAMILY-ID
GREG GUNN – FOUNDER, FAMILY VISION MINISTRIES
Greg Gunn is the founder of Family Vision Ministries and the author of Family-iD - Intentional Direction: Discover
Your Family’s Unique Purpose and Passion. Greg formed the Family-iD workshop as a class in his local church more
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and in countries around the world, sharing a message of intentional purpose and passion for this generation and
generations to come. You can learn more about Family-iD and Family Vision Ministries at www.family-id.com.
SESSION 1 – TAKE IT IN
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TALK IT OVER
What are some of the biggest challenges you currently face in leading your family?
Why have a vision?
Vision creates passion. You show me someone with no passion. I’ll show you someone who doesn’t have a passion
problem, they have a vision problem.
Where there is no vision, the people perish… Proverbs 29:18 KJV
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What is your Family iD?
Your Family iD consists of three things:
1. Core Values
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Getting your priorities in order
1. Your relationship with God
“Remain in me, and I will remain in you. I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in
him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” John 15:4a-5 NIV84
It isn’t the amount of time you spend with God that should be measured. Whatever time you have set aside to spend
alone with God, if nothing can get in the way of spending that time, then God is your number one priority.
2. Your relationship with your spouse
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her.
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Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your husbands… 1 Peter 3:1 NIV
3. Your relationship with your children
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4. Your life’s message
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5. Your business and/or ministry
God will not pick up the slack for you in …
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able to get things done faster and with more excellence than you would ever imagine!
Once your priorities are in place, you can begin to build a healthy family identity.
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TALK IT OVER DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
After watching the video, take time to answer the following questions with your group:
What’s the one thing from the video that most caught your attention? Why?
How has your understanding of how to lead your family changed based on what you’ve
just watched?
Greg Gunn said, “You show me someone with no passion, I’ll show you someone who
doesn’t have a passion problem. They have a vision problem.” How does that statement
make you feel?
Do you agree or disagree with the statements that were made about the order of your
priorities? Why or why not?
What are the biggest challenges you face when trying to keep your priorities in the
right place?
What one thing will you do or change as a result of what you’ve just learned and
discussed with your group?
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Talk about your day, and share what is going on in your heart and mind.
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simple. What you do isn’t nearly as important as the time you spend together!
SESSION 2 – STIR IT UP
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Describe a time growing up when you were especially connected or disconnected with
your family.
The Interdependent Family
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Your Core Family Values
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Your Core Family Values
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TALK IT OVER DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
After watching the video, take time to answer the following questions with your group:
What’s the one thing from the video that most caught your attention? Why?
Regarding family interdependence vs. family independence, which one do you think most
characterizes your family?
In what ways is your family interdependent?
In what ways is your family independent?
How has your perception of sibling rivalry changed based on the video you just watched?
How can you begin to set the expectation that your children treat each other better than
their best friends?
Do you agree or disagree with the statement, “Where family identity is strong, peer pressure
is weak. Where family identity is weak, peer pressure is strong.”? Why or why not?
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SESSION 3 – WRITE IT DOWN
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group your core values, along with some of the sentences or key phrases you have written down using them.
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ourselves, we can still get our bearings and stay on course.” – Greg Gunn
Your Family Vision Statement
Your family vision statement describes where you are going in words that greatly motivate you to take action. As you
begin to identify your family vision statement, it might help to ask yourself the following questions:
1. What do you want your dream family to look like?
2. What do you want others to say of your family?
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4. What action(s) does God most want to take through your family?
5. What consequence does God most want to accomplish through that action?
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1. My family vision statement in one long ramble (if necessary):
2. My family vision statement in one phrase or sentence:
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…each family member will understand and practice the Great Commission of communicating the Good News of
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…each family member understands their responsibility in training subsequent generations in the family mission.
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In our commitment to instill this mission into future generations.
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2. My family mission statement in several phrases or sentences:
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Vision Statement: We will constantly lift up Jesus Christ as the rock as we strive to be role models for others.
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this kind of vision will have on your family?
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take to work towards your vision? If you are unsure what steps you should take, ask
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and mission statements?
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words or less. Recruit your kids, and have fun with this!
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your own parents. Sharing your core values and thoughts with people outside your
immediate family can help get you unstuck and well on your way!
SESSION 4 – LIVE IT OUT
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Share your family slogan with your group. Describe how it ties into your vision and
mission statements. If you feel stuck, this would be a great time to discuss some of your
questions with your fellow group members.
With so many voices competing for our kids’ attention, how can we be sure our kids will
choose our values as they grow up?
“Your light may not be the brightest, but if you will hold it the closest to their eyes, even if
it is only a candle, it will be the brightest light they see.”
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Keep your family slogan, vision statement, and mission statement in front of your kids.
Display them as wall art, on t-shirts, on the refrigerator, as the screensaver on your family computer—anywhere and
everywhere you and your kids will see them often.
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night to have fun as a family as you learn some important lessons along the way. At the end of this participant guide,
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family for years to come.
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important memories in a very powerful way.
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and your spouse, and model for them what a Godly relationship should look like. Afterward, ask them what they
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that others are more important than themselves.
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incentive, and reward them if they read all 25 books and do a 1-page report on each of them. Not only will
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demonstrate family cheers, family night skits, and any other ideas you might have.
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their unique, God-revealed purpose as they transform those around them.
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