Lesson 19: Being Impatient Impatience has some similarity to the emotion of
anger. Anger is a response to fear. The fear that
you will never achieve what it is that you're
working towards, for example, or the fear of
missing out on something. In either case, it's the
fear that you will not get something that you
think you need and don't currently have. This fear
response (it's never going to happen) leads to a
desire to control not only the outcome. Many of us have developed fear from negative experiences in our past. We have built
a protective fence around our emotional scars, and learned to ward off anybody or
anything that triggers an unconscious fear.
Sometimes our intuition guides us toward those things we fear the most so that we
can push past them and become stronger as a result.
5 Tips for Being Patient
• Take deep breaths. It might seem like a very small step, but it’s a step in the
right direction. If you find yourself in a situation where you feel tense and
impatient, a few deep breaths will help you focus on the present and may help
to push your irritation aside.
• Be always open to learning. Almost every person and situation in life has
something to teach you. If you’re being impatient and rushing there’s a good
chance you might miss out on something worth learning. Focusing on the
learning experience can help you want to be more patient with others.
• 3. Look at the big picture. Whenever you feel impatient, try to think of the big
picture. Ask yourself, “What’s really more important right now than being
where I am?” It’s tempting to believe that you really must be elsewhere, but
everything in life happens for a reason and there’s no reason not to pace
yourself.
• 4. Choose the easy path. If you grow more and more impatient with a situation,
that doesn’t make the situation go away. It only aggravates you and may even
cause problems that can make you even more impatient. Patience, hard as it
seems sometimes, is the easy way out.
• 5. Consider others. One of the last things we usually do when we’re impatient
is consider how we might be affecting others. If we stop for a moment and do
this, we’ll most likely realize that our impatience is not worth upsetting other
people. Focus on selflessness, and patience will come more easily.
The next time you find yourself getting frustrated, remember that all negative
emotions are simply an indication of some vibrational discord. You are thinking a
thought, or harboring a belief that your inner being, the YOU who you really are,
disagrees with. Find that thought or belief and shift your perspective and you will
feel better. And when you feel better, you'll get what you want.
Remember impatience = ANGER which is a root cause of a FEAR … if you continue
down this path then be ready to be stressed, depressed, sad and end up on anti
depressions … AND YOU DO NOT WANT THAT !!!… “let it go’ … embrace the fear
and learn from it … BE PATIENT and you will see the magic happen.
Love & Light ~ Oshum Karam
www.oshumkaram.com