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verybody gets angry sometimes, and as an old green
friend once said, “You wouldn’t like me when I’m
angry.” Most people are not “likable” when they are
upset, because anger is a strong and defensive emotion,
one that is defined as “an aroused state toward someone or
something perceived to be the source of an aversive event.”
When we sense that someone else is angry this immediately creates uneasy feelings, since we do not wish to be
the source of that agitation. Of course, anger is not merely
directed towards other people; often times, places, things,
situations and other intangible properties can be a source of
great anger. Some people are angry with their government
or the politics that permeate their office of work. Some
people are angry with lawmakers, while others are angry
at how the criminal element appears to prosper at times.
There are plenty of things in this world that can make us
angry at any given moment in time.
who are known to be constantly angry are also the ones that
have problems with their heart or with high blood pressure.
Why is anger linked to heart disease? It has been observed
that anger actually reduces the capacity of the heart to
pump blood. Over an extended period of time, this can
wear down the heart muscles and cause medical problems.
A 1976 film entitled Network had a famous scene that
involved a newscaster telling his audience that it was
okay to “get mad.” In fact, he encouraged his viewers to
get mad and to yell their frustrations outside the living
room window. This illustrates a good point. When you are
angry, it’s never a good idea to bottle up that strong emotion inside. This could lead to festering resentment over a
period of time, and in the end, could cause an ordinarily
calm person to become filled with rage. On the other hand,
you don’t really want to take your anger out on others as
that typically doesn’t produce the result you want.
If you feel that someone or something is becoming distressing or even injurious to you, the first reaction is to get
angry. As stated, do not deny yourself the right to become
angry. You have the right to become angry with a person
that has done you wrong, especially if he or she has shown
no remorse over their actions. What is important though is
that you are able to make peace with that person, to forgive
them and to forgive yourself. Why should you forgive
someone that has offended you?
The Harmful Effects of Being Angry
Allowing yourself to become angry doesn’t necessarily
solve problems. In fact, it’s no coincidence that people
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While it is best to express your anger, constantly
becoming agitated can be very unhealthy. Recurring anger
has also been linked to chest pains, headaches, migraines,
stroke, kidney failure, obesity, skin wrinkles and ulcers.
Sometimes we can avoid these negative and unhealthy
reactions if we choose not to let some things anger us anymore.
We can choose to not get angry or we can choose to get
angry. Which is really better for you?
There are many reasons to forgive, on a moral basis, as
well as on a personal level. You must be willing to forgive
others and yourself for your own actions, because this will
make your life more enjoyable. Life is too short to become
obsessed with vengeance and deep-rooted animosity.
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You could liken the idea of “never forgiving” to letting
someone repeatedly stab you in the back with a knife.
It hurts when someone betrays your confidence, like a
sharp stab. However, when you cling to those painful
memories every day, you are just reinserting the knife
into that sensitive wound. Whether or not you choose to
resume the relationship with the offender is up to you; but
it is imperative that you forgive that person at least in the
sense of letting go of that heavy ball of negativity that is
slowly developing in your heart.
Anger Management in Your Personal and Professional
Life
Not only must you learn to control your anger in view
of your own health, you will also be expected to exercise
proper anger management appropriately by your friends
and professional colleagues. This can be tricky, because if
you are prone to temper tantrums or impulsive behavior,
you will be perceived as an unstable personality. If you
are known for having a bad temper at work, don’t expect
to get a lot of opportunities for advancement. The more
responsibility you are given the more maturity you are
expected to show. On the other hand, if you handle anger
so well that you don’t even express your feelings, you
may be perceived as a bit of a push over.
Basically, you have to give people what they want
to see. If you are interested in appearing assertive and
responsible, then try not to let others slight you without
a discussion. This doesn’t require that you be “mad”, but
you can certainly share your opinion on the matter.
perceive you is all a part of learning anger management.
If you want to control your anger in healthy ways and
progress in your career, then begin today to choose to react
differently to situations that normally would have made
you angry. Make different choices and keep yourself as
healthy as possible. Learn to control your anger and choose
to handle situations in a new and more positive manner.
Anne M. Bachrach is known as The Accountability
Coach™. She has 23 years of experience training and
coaching. The objective is to do more business in less time
through maximizing people’s true potential, and ultimately
leading them to an even better quality of life. Anne is the
author of the book, Excuses Don’t Count; Results Rule!,
and Live Life with No Regrets; How the Choices We Make
Impact Our Lives. Go to www.AccountabilityCoach.com
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