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• A comprehensive social and emotional
intelligence program that empowers both
adults and children.
• Based on theory and research
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Conscious Discipline
Three Major Ideas
• Controlling and changing ourselves is possible
and has impact on others
• Connectedness governs behavior
• The process of guiding children from the lower
centers of their brain to the higher centers of
their brain so they can respond instead of react
to life events
• Conflict is an opportunity to TEACH!
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Activity
Internal States
• Our current state of
mind activates a
cluster of brain activity
that engages beliefs,
feelings and actions.
= disrespect
— Neuroscientist,
Daniel Siegel
What unconscious beliefs might be
driving your common phrases?
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We're working so hard because
we're trying to do it backwards.
Connection = Cooperation
. The motivation to
behave comes from
being in a
relationship.
Connection literally
wires your brain for
impulse control and
willingness.
• Change the state
FIRST.
• Change the behavior
SECOND.
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7 Powers + 7 Discipline Skills = 7 Life Skills
- 7 Discipline Skills:
•Composure
• Encouragement
• Assertiveness
• Choices
• Positive Intent
.Empathy
• Consequences
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7 Powers:
• Perception
• Unity
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Free Will
• Love
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7 Life Skills:,
• Anger management
• Helpfulness
- Assertiveness
- • Impulse control
• Cooperation
Empathy
Problem solving
• Being the person you
want others to become!
• Power of Perception!!
• No one can mahe you
angry without your
permission!!
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Principle #I
• Composure is self control in action.
• It is a prerequisite sill adults need before
disciplining children.
• Self control is mind control.
• Becoming aware of your own thoughts and
feelings is a major accomplishment.
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Power of Perceptions
• Choose to be a
S.T.A.R
-Smile or Stop
-Take a deep
breath
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Principle #2.
• Whomever you have placed in charge of your
feelings, you have placed in control of you.
• Change trigger thoughts to calming
thoughts...
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State dictates behavior
Each mind state Is defined by.
• We need to understand some basic brain
principles that impact our mind/body states.
• Which areas of the brain that are
predominantly active
- Conscious Discipline: Brain Smart Principles
• What kinds of cognitive processing, emotions,
and behaviors are most likely exhibited
• We need to understand what skills we have
access to from each of our inner states.
- Conscious Discipline: Brain State Model
• The ultimate need of that state to balance
the system
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Conscious Discipline® Brain State Model
Survival State -Brain Stem
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Functions:
•Survival systems
• Changes states of
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• Unconscious
*What can I learn
from this?
•Choice of how to
respond based on
integrating emotions
with thought
• Fight/Flight/Freeze
The 8mb, Always Functions
As A Whole
Developmental
Need:
SAFETY
Survival State Skills:
Reaction to Threat
Survival State
• Fights Hit, hick, spit,
push ... Physical
aggression
• When danger is perceived, a
message is sent to the brain
stem to react. It sends out
adrenalin and cortisol and
prepares to fight or flight.
• Flights Withdraw,
hide, run, scream
• Surrenders Cry,
whine, comply ... Give
in, give up
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Emotional State-Limbic System
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Sets emotional tone - flexible or rigid, positive or
negative
• Attachment!!!!
• Tags events as internally important
motivation syst.m
• Adult needs to engage in a 'Dance"
Attention systoin
with the child.
• Attachment; relationships; territory
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Stores highly charged emotional memories
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Controls appetite and sleep cycles
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Unconscious
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Comes online with the
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Need:
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Executive State Prefrontal Lobes of the Cortex
Emotional State Shills
• Verbal Name Calling
• Social exclusion
• You can't play with us,
• we don't like you, etc.
• Social aggression
• Spreading rumors, internet posts. etc.
• Blame
• It's your fault I am upset, he mode me do it,
etc.
• Guilt
• Attention seeking: Connection
avoidant
Pundl.nss
Impulse Control
Empathy
- Working Memory
Sustained attention
Planning, prioritization,
initiation
Organization, time
management
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• Clingy and emotionally needy
"What can I learn from
this?"
Developmental Need;
PROBLEM SOLVING
In social situations
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Executive Skills Governed by the
Pr-efrontal Lobes
Attention
>Time
Management
> Organization
Flexibility
Metacognition
> Prioritization
Goal Achievement
Wothing Memory
Impulse Control
The executive skills
housed in the prefrontal
lobes take
24 years to mature
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parenting require
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Activities to Relax
When stressed, our
buttons are pushed
STOP
and the world does not
go our way.
TARE A DEEP BREATH
We then downshift
into the lower
centers of our brain.
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Mirror neurons:
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The more you know,
the calmer you are.
The calmer you are,
the easier it is to teach
the behavior that you
want to see.
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• We activate mirror
neurons through eye
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• Notice how your body feels
by just looking at the image
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Questions/Comments??
Tips and more information
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