Cappuccino Coaching
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Module 7"
Boosting Self-Confidence"
Welcome & Introduction"
(Give a few lines of introduction about yourself)!
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•  “In my coaching I help …” !
(e.g - people with relationship issues or struggling with overwhelm)!
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•  “Through questioning & coaching skills I help people …” !
(e.g– determine what their life purpose is, to set boundaries, set
action plans & take action in their lives)!
•  “I’m a bit like a plumber – I help people unblock their
problems!”!
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©Ruby McGuire 2014 What are Cappuccino Coaching Sessions?"
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•  A way of learning what coaching is!
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•  A starting point for taking action and making some small
changes in your life!
•  Safe environment – get involved as little or as much as
you choose!
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•  In business? A way of meeting like minded people, bring
your business cards & share!
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•  Not in business? Just mingle, make new friends!
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©Ruby McGuire 2014 !
What We Will Cover Today"
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•  What confidence means to you!
•  Increasing your confidence by 10%!
•  Modelling – all related to confidence!!
•  A process to help you change how you think, feel
and act!
•  Journalling!
•  Being nice!
•  Believing right now!
©Ruby McGuire 2014 What Is Confidence?"
What does the word ‘Confidence’ mean to you?"
(write down some thoughts and share ideas)!
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It means many things to different people!
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Noun"
•  The feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or
something; firm trust: “we had every confidence in the
staff”!
•  The state of feeling certain about the truth of something!
Synonyms"
•  Trust – faith – reliance – belief – credit - credence!
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©Ruby McGuire 2014 Confidence Takes Practice"
•  Everyone has good/bad days with confidence – they
have to work on it!
•  It continuously rises/falls – light switch!
•  Paul McGee – Tom Cruise – 5’7” to 6’1”!
•  Aim for an increase in confidence of 10% - small steps!
©Ruby McGuire 2014 Confidence Takes Practice"
In pairs.. What difference would a 10% increase in confidence mean to you? •  Reading the ad – 10% - applying for the job!
•  Saying ‘yes’ to everything – saying ‘no’ to one thing!
•  What difference would that 10% make to your life?!
•  Bread/yeast!
•  Choose high self esteem!
•  Personal setbacks!
•  Feedback, not failure!
©Ruby McGuire 2014 Fake It To Make It
(Pace each question – wait for responses)"
1.  Who do you know that is confident, someone that
exudes the confidence that you would love to have?!
2.  What is it about them that comes across as confident?!
3.  What qualities do they possess?!
4.  What do they do?!
5.  What do they say?!
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Homework: Choose one quality and ‘act as if’!
Fake it to make it!"
©Ruby McGuire 2014 S-TEAR Process"
Behaviour
Negative Self-Talk
Result = Low S.E
Accent"
Event/Situation"
Actions"
Thoughts"
Emotion"
Negative
Downhearted
Anxious
©Ruby McGuire 2014 Embarrassing
Why need to know?
S-TEAR Process"
Nice Mtg
Result = Positive
Event/Situation
Actions
Thoughts
(Behaviour)
Pleased
Interested in me
Accent
Emotion
©Ruby McGuire 2014 Trying to build
rapport with me
Journal
Write down three of your strengths (5 mins)"
At home top this list of strengths up to your age number!
Want to take this further?"
•  List 10 strengths, 10 achievements, 10 things you like
about your body, 10 things you like about yourself!
Compliments – What do you say when someone gives you
a compliment? A compliment is a gift"
Write down compliments – having a bad day – read
through the list! Value every one of your successes –
appreciate yourself!
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©Ruby McGuire 2014 Be Nice!
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What would you say if a friend said some of the mean
things to you that you say to yourself? Be nice!!
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Catch your negative self talk – should, must, never, can’t
– who says?!
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Watch how you think, feel and behave, awareness is the
first step – but DON’T judge, just notice!
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Limiting beliefs – can be changed!
You are special, unique and fabulous"
You need to remind yourself of that!!
©Ruby McGuire 2014 Believe Right Now"
What 3 things could you believe right now that would
take you closer to where you want to be?"
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Force those positive thoughts until they become real and
you start to believe that you’re the fabulous person that you
are!!
©Ruby McGuire 2014 One small
step at
a time
Where the
magic happens
Your
comfort
zone
©Ruby McGuire 2014 What We Covered Today"
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•  What confidence means to you!
•  Increasing your confidence by 10%!
•  Modelling – all related to confidence!!
•  Process to help you change how you think, act
feel and act!
•  Journalling!
•  Being nice!
•  Believing right now!
©Ruby McGuire 2014 Enjoyed Today’s Session?"
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What was the best thing about this session?!
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Come back next month for our topic on ….!
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Tell your friends, follow on facebook, twitter etc.. (give
business card if you have one)!
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Want to work with me 1-2-1 (here’s how…)!
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If you’ve left your name will add it to my mailing list –
latest topics, hints/tips etc..!
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I will leave you with some words of wisdom!
©Ruby McGuire 2014 ©Ruby McGuire 2014