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TABLE OF CONTENTS
WOMEN’S MENTORSHIP MINISTRY . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3
GUIDELINES FOR MEETINGS . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4
GUIDELINES FOR MENTORS . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5
GUIDELINES FOR MENTEES . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7
CREATIVE INTENTIONAL FRIENDSHIP IDEAS . . . . . . . . . 9
ACTIVE LISTENING QUESTIONS . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9
BIBLICAL ELEMENTS OF INTENTIONAL FRIENDSHIP . . . 10
BOOK RESOURCES . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11
THEMATIC BOOK STUDY SUGGESTIONS . . . . . . . . . . . 11
MENTORSHIP MINISTRY APPLICATION . . . . . . . . . . . . 17
MENTORSHIP COVENANT . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18
NOTES . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21
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WOMEN’S MENTORSHIP MINISTRY
Goal
The Mentor Is:
 A woman who is mature in her faith and consistent in godly conduct.
Personal, spiritual growth through intentional friendship encounters.
 A woman who seeks to hear God through His
Word and His Spirit.
What Is It?
 Uniquely suited in life experience to
support and encourage her partner.
Mentorship Ministry is a network of women of all
ages, aimed at connecting individual women with
a friend who is willing and uniquely suited to speak
into their life circumstances in ways that will promote
spiritual growth and personal well-being, according
to biblical values.
 Willing to listen, self-disclose, and offer positive biblically-based perspectives.
 Seeking to encourage and equip others.
 One who provides a safe and fun environment in which friendship may grow.
Why Do This?
 Scripture commands us to “tell the next generation”. (Ps 145:4; 48:13; 71:18; 78:4)
 Member/in process of the church where this
program is being offered.
 It leads to growth and maturity.
(Titus 2:2-5)
 Willing to attend, or has attended, pertinent
training offered by the church.
 Such friendships are extremely valuable.
(Prov 27:9 & 17)
The Mentor Is Not:
 God
How Does It Work?
 Super-mom
1. Complete application form and hand in to
the church in which this program is being offered.
2. Mentorship begins in September and runs
until the end of May each year.
3. The Mentorship Team will prayerfully match
profiles and set-up initial contact.
4. Partners will communicate weekly, with at
least one monthly face-to-face date.
5. Oversight of mentorship will be given
through the Mentorship Lead Team under the
supervision of Women’s Ministry of the church in
which this program is being offered.
 A professional counselor
 There to “fix” problems or people
 There just to be sympathetic
The Mentee:
 Is a woman who desires the insight of a more
experienced woman.
 Desires to mature in specific areas of her
character.
 Welcomes accountability and is willing to be
challenged with kindness.
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GUIDELINES FOR MEETINGS
Starting - Meeting #1
 Mentors will initiate communication and suggest a first meeting time/place.
 Open with prayer.
 Share some of your life stories or spiritual journey.
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Ask lots of questions! This should be an informal informational meeting.
 Discuss preferred dates, times, location and length of meetings.
 Express preferences re: communication (email, phone).
 Schedule the following meeting.
 Agree to come to that meeting prepared to discuss goals.
 If in accord, both will read and sign the Covenant agreement.
 End with prayer.
Setting Goals - Meeting #2
Discuss any goals expressed in application forms (may bring a copy).
 Have they changed since the application process?
 Write down goals for this mentorship process; make lists.
 Decide at this meeting what format/themes further meetings may have. Possible format options:
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Book study?
Bible study?
Conversation?
Prayer?
Taking a class together?
Journaling?
Events? Other?
Spiritual Commitment - mid-week
 Pray during the week in preparation for each meeting.
 Pray at the start and end of each meeting.
 Maintain other healthy spiritual habits (devotions, church attendance, fellowship).
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GUIDELINES FOR MENTORS
 Listen and ask questions! See “Active Listening” (see page 9)
 Stay in close relationship with the Lord. The
more you focus on your own relationship with
God, the better Mentor you will be.
 Clarify what you hear with reflective
responses (“So I hear you saying…”).
 Accept your Mentee as she is, remembering
that we are all “in process”.
 Focus on the positive and look for ways to
speak encouragement at all times.
 Know your role, and your limits. You are not
there to fix problems or be her mother.
 Where there is sin, do not condemn, but
instead offer to pray.
 Let her know you care and will support her,
but remember that she is responsible for her own
choices. Encourage her to take ownership of her
decisions and their consequences.
 Don’t assume anything. If you aren’t sure, ask.
If you are sure, ask!
 Research resources that might be useful to
your Mentee.
 Take the initiative for contacting her and
helping to set mentorship goals.
 Guard confidentiality at all times.
 Make your appointment a priority. Don’t cancel appointments unless it is an emergency. You
are a role model; you may need to change your
own plans to accommodate her.
 Return phone calls or respond to emails
promptly.
 Come prepared: Review concerns or prayer
requests shared that need revisiting. Prepare in
advance for any Bible study or book study you
are doing. Choose a topic in advance that you
want to discuss. This may be especially helpful
in the beginning while you are getting to know
each other.
 Pray! Set aside time to pray for your Mentee. When together, share your own personal
requests and ask for hers. If she is not comfortable praying out loud, encourage her to pray
silently, or alone at home. Keep your prayers
simple so as not to intimidate her.
 Show a genuine interest in her life, as in
knowing names of her family members, her life
circumstances, etc. Take notes and review them
(remembering details shows a caring heart).
 Do self-evaluation periodically, as well as
evaluating the mentorship process together with
your Mentee. Be honest and vulnerable. Don’t
judge yourself by others’ experience or by your
own unrealistic expectations. Trust that you are
exactly who she needs you to be and that God
put you together for a reason.
 Explain, model and keep strong personal
boundaries (ie: When are you NOT available).
 Set conversational parameters (no gossip,
slander, husband-bashing, etc).
 Ask for prayer/input from the Mentorship
team at any time.
 Share your own experiences, but refrain from
giving advice. Likewise, disclose with vulnerability, but no hijacking with your own problems.
 Stop if/when she asks you to stop, and let the
leadership team know. There is no reason to feel
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 For her expressed needs.
 For her to feel safe and have the confidence to be transparent.
 For God’s work in her life.
 For new steps in her personal growth.
 Pray Together:
 For personal requests you have shared
(if this is comfortable for her).
 Keep your prayers simple so as not to
intimidate her—choose a private place to
pray.
badly if this happens. She may not be ready now!
Likewise, let us know if you feel that you need to
stop the mentorship process for any reason. We
are all learning and growing together.
 Prayer is a top priority:
 Pray for God’s direction to raise topics that
will encourage personal growth for both of
you.
 Pray for answers to questions that came up
at your last meeting.
 Pray for yourself as the Mentor:
 For your own spiritual preparation.
 That you would relate in a Christ-like
way.
 For transparency and honesty in your
relationship.
 For wisdom, insight and patience from
the Holy Spirit.
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GUIDELINES FOR MENTEES
Congratulations for taking this step of faith. You will find your new relationship encouraging as well as challenging, but
be assured that it will be a blessing to have a mature Christian woman in your life that cares about you and wants to
help you achieve your full potential in Christ. Remember that your Mentor is still human like you! She will offer suggestions but not make choices for you. Nor will she be able to fix all your problems. She is human too and has her own issues
and challenges. She is only a willing vessel that the Lord will use to accomplish His work in your life. Regardless of how
well you think the “fit” is, be assured that God knows just who to match together to fulfill the plans He has for each of
you. It will take time, commitment, flexibility and love, but we trust that this mentorship process will yield lasting fruit in
your life, and the lives of others that you come into contact with in the future.
Here are some practical suggestions to help you get the most out of your mentorship experience:
 Meditate on what God is saying to you
through the Bible. Write down what He seems to
be saying to you in a journal.
Develop Spiritual Habits
Good habits take time to develop. Your Mentor is not
going to eliminate bad habits you may have acquired
and bring new ones into your life. She will encourage
you but you need to develop good habits through
the help of the Holy Spirit.
ATTEND CHURCH
 Regular corporate worship is God’s ideal for
our personal spiritual growth and experience of
relationship with Him. Ask your Mentor to help
you find a fellowship group, if you are not currently attending one.
PRAYER
 For openness and receptiveness to your
Mentor. In order for this relationship to be fruitful, a level of trust needs to be developed with
each other, and as that occurs, you will be able
to be vulnerable and authentic. You will then feel
comfortable to share with her areas in which you
desire to grow and to be held accountable.
 Regular attendance allows you to learn more
from God’s Word from experienced leaders.
 Serving in the church is a great way to build
relationship with others, and to worship God in
a tangible way. If you feel that you are able to do
this, consider asking your Mentor to help identify
an area of gifting that can allow you to integrate
into a local church fellowship.
 Thank God for the opportunity to receive
wisdom from a godly woman.
 Pray for your Mentor. If you are not accustomed to praying with someone, ask her to help
you learn.
 Consider finding fellowship in a Bible study
or Life Group.
SEEK COUNSEL
READ THE BIBLE DAILY AND MEDITATE
ON IT
 Your Mentor is not a counselor but a spiritual
guide. She cannot possibly be an authority in
every subject; therefore, you need to seek out
other spiritual leaders who are specialists in the
areas of question.
 This is God’s Word. Allow God to speak to you
through this Word. If you have never done this
on a regular basis, now is a good time to start.
Consider asking your Mentor to help you learn
this discipline.
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 Many times, you will be able to seek out
the counsel from Christian authors. The recommended list in the back of your manual has some
suggestions of book titles.
frankness then you will want to be praying about
being able to receive it. There may be times she
will need to tell you something that you really do
not want to hear. Be sure you both pray together
before this type of discussion.
 Some issues may take longer and more than
a Mentor is able and qualified to give. You may
wish to seek out professional help as needed.
SCHEDULING TIME TOGETHER
 Return phone calls or emails within 24 hours.
COMMUNICATE OPENLY AND
REGULARLY WITH YOUR MENTOR
 Don’t cancel or reschedule unless it is a real
emergency. She is giving freely of her time and
rescheduling can create havoc in her life. She is
serving the Lord and you, so being respectful of
the boundaries you have established will encourage both of you.
 Mentorship is a two-way relationship. Your
enthusiasm and participation are essential. Your
Mentor will take responsibility for the relationship, but communicating openly and regularly is
important.
 Consistent meetings are essential to the success and growth of your mentoring relationship.
It is very common to find that the first few meetings are hard to coordinate. Don’t be discouraged
by this. Make the effort!
SET GOALS
 Let your Mentor know the areas you would
like to focus on. Make a list early on in your relationship. This is critical to the success of this relationship. Think and pray about this, then discuss
it with your Mentor at your first meeting. Be open
and honest.
 Be sure to bring your calendar to every meeting so both of you can arrange the next meeting.
Let your mentor know that you value her and
your time.
 If you are new to Christianity, you are going
to want to know how to learn and grow in Christ
and receive direction on how to live this new life.
If you have recently rededicated your life, you will
want to review and renew your commitment, and
grow in your knowledge of the Bible and in any
areas you have found to be a struggle.
 There are limitations as to what to expect
from your Mentor. She cannot be available 24
hours a day nor have an answer to all your questions. You have set goals in what you want to
receive in the mentoring relationship and if your
expectations exceed what you have verbalized
then you will be disappointed.
 If you have been a Christian for a while and
want to continue to grow and become stronger
in your faith, you may want to do a Bible study
together.
PRAY FOR YOUR MENTOR
 Your Mentor is also receiving in this relationship, so be aware of what her needs are and commit to praying for her. You will be blessed!
 You may desire the focus of your relationship to be accountability for an issue in your life
that you are struggling with. If so, you need to
discuss this very carefully and thoroughly. Be sure
to clarify the area in which you want accountability. Do not to ask for accountability unless you
genuinely want it and are prepared to accept it
without feeling defensive or angry. Your Mentor
will talk to you in love, but if you have asked for
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CREATIVE INTENTIONAL FRIENDSHIP IDEAS
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Meet, add coffee, and stir.
Share life stories.
Short emails, simple phone calls, and face-to-face once a month.
Add to FaceBook.
Consider journaling.
Share insights from personal devotions.
Do a Bible study or book study together.
Attend events of mutual interest (concert, swap meet, ALPHA, movie, etc).
Cook together for someone in need.
Cook together for fun and eat it yourselves.
Gifts: Cards, e-cards, a flower, single wrapped chocolate, baking, bookmark...
Go for a hike or a stroll.
Laugh.
Hug.
Cry.
Pray.
ACTIVE LISTENING QUESTIONS
1. “Would you mind if I asked you a few questions?”
2. Ask, listen, and reflect back as a question. “Are you saying that…?”
3. Body language relaxed but attentive.
4. Wait out the pauses.
5. Put your own emotional response aside (surprise, shock, disgust).
6. Avoid advice giving, opinions, argument, moralizing, or “Bible-bashing”.
7. Where there is clear sin, allow for the conviction of the Holy Spirit. You might ask a question:
“What do you think/feel that God is saying about this?”
8. Acknowledge that what they think/feel is valid.
9. Don’t overpower them. Passive acceptance of your leadership/opinions will not evoke long-term
change in their lives.
10. Establish a sense of “team”. Go with them to God. “Can we pray about this together…What do you
think?”
11. Don’t compare, compete, or hijack. It’s about them, their story.
12. What if they don’t know what they want?
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“What challenges are you facing in your life right now?”
“How is that working for you? What’s not working?”
“What do you wish would change in your life?”
“What would that look like?”
“Can you describe it to me?”
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BIBLICAL ELEMENTS OF INTENTIONAL FRIENDSHIP
 Proverbs 13:20 Walk with the wise and
become wise, for a companion of fools suffers
harm.
LOVE
 Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and
a brother is born for a time of adversity. Romans
12:10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor
one another above yourselves.
HONESTY
 Ephesians 4:15 Instead, speaking the truth
in love, we will grow to become in every respect
the mature body of him who is the head, that is,
Christ.
ACCEPTANCE
 Romans 15:7 Accept one another, then, just
as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to
God.
 Proverbs 27:6 Wounds from a friend can be
trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.
DISCRETION
ENCOURAGEMENT
 James 1:19 My dear brothers and sisters, take
note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen,
slow to speak and slow to become angry.
 Hebrews 3:13 But encourage one another
daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of
you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.
 Proverbs 17:9 Whoever would foster love
covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the
matter separates close friends.
 Hebrews 10:24-25 And let us consider how
we may spur one another on toward love and
good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as
some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging
one another—and all the more as you see the
Day approaching.
SENSITIVITY
 Proverbs 25:17 Seldom set foot in your
neighbor’s house—too much of you, and they
will hate you.
 Philippians 2:4 Not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
 Proverbs 27:14 If anyone loudly blesses their
neighbor early in the morning, it will be taken as
a curse.
PRACTICALITY
 Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor: If
either of them falls down, one can help the other
up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to
help them up.
WISE COUNSEL
 Proverbs 27:9 Perfume and incense bring
joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend
springs from their heartfelt advice.
 Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one
person sharpens another.
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BOOK RESOURCES
Check NLCC Resource Centre for availability
Spiritual Mentoring
Table For Two
Keith R. Anderson & Randy D. Reese
Amy Kendrick & Mona Corwin
Women Connecting With Women
Includes study guide
Becoming a Woman of Influence
Carol Kent
Verna Birkey
The Influential Woman
Vickie Kraft
Divine Secrets of Mentoring
Carol Brazo
Between Women of God
Donna Otto
A Garden Path To Mentoring
Esther Burroughs
Becoming a Titus 2 Woman
Includes study guide
Woman to Woman:
Preparing Yourself to Mentor
Martha Peace
Edna Ellison & Tricia Scribner
Guardians of the Gate
As Iron Sharpens Iron
Ann Platz
Howard Hendricks
The Heart of Mentoring
Gifts of Gold
David Stoddard
Betty Huizenga
Women Encouraging Women
Spiritual Mothering
Lucibel Van Atta
Susan Hunt
THEMATIC BOOK STUDY SUGGESTIONS
Women’s Spiritual Passages
Celebrating faith after 40
AGING
I’m Too Young to be This Old
Lucinda Secrest McDowell
Poppy Smith
BUSYNESS
Living Somewhere Between Estrogen and Death
Barbara Johnson
Can A Busy Christian Develop Her Spiritual Life?
Answers to questions women ask about spirituality
Menopause
Help and hope for this passage
Kay Arthur, Jill Briscoe & Carole Mayhall
Sally Conway
Margin
Dr. Robert Swenson
She Can Laugh at it in Days to Come
Valerie Bell
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Running On Empty and Looking for the
Nearest Exit
How to recharge and reenergize your life
The Woman God Can Use
Pamela Hoover Heim
Woman of Influence
Annie Chapman
Pam Farrel
Reenergize Your Life
Annie Chapman
Women Helping Women
A biblical guide to the major issues women face
Smart Women Keep it Simple
Elyse Fitzpatrick & Carol Cornish
Annie Chapman with Maureen Rank
Woman’s Guide to Keeping Promises
The Life God Blesses
Judith Rolfs
Gordon MacDonald
CHRISTIAN WOMEN IN THE
WORKPLACE
Traveling Light
Max Lucado
The Business Woman’s Topical Bible
NIV Version
Women Who Do Too Much
How to stop doing it all and start enjoying your life
Zondervan
Patricia H. Sparkle
The Workplace
Questions women ask
CHRISTIAN CHARACTER
Judith Briles, Luci Swindoll & Mary Welchel
A Journal for the Journey
Cynthia Heald
DECISION MAKING
A Woman After God’s Own Heart
Includes study guide
Experiencing God
Henry Blackaby
Elizabeth George
Fasting For Spiritual Breakthrough
A Woman God Can Use
Lessons from the Old Testament
Elmer Towns
Alice Mathews
Listening to God in Times of Choice
Gordon T. Smith
A Woman’s Journey to the Heart of God
Pathway to Purpose for Women
Cynthia Heald
Katie Brazelton
Choices for Women Who Long To Discover Life’s
Best
DEPRESSION
Mary Farrar
Depression Workbook
Esther
Minirith & Meier
Chuck Swindoll
Why Do I Feel This Way?
Free to Be God’s Woman
Brenda Poinsett
Janet Congo
ENCOURAGEMENT
The Desires of a Woman’s Heart
Beverly LaHaye
Encouragement
The key to caring
Lawrence J. Crabb, Jr. & Dan B. Allender
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The Personal Touch
In The Company of Women
Rachel Crabb
Brenda Hunter, Ph.D.
Silver Boxes
Thank You for Being a Friend
Florence Littauer
Jill Briscoe
Things Happen When Women Care
EVANGELISM
Emilie Barnes
Becoming a Contagious Christian
The Friendships of Women
Bill Hybels & Mark Mittelberg
Dee Brestin
Finders Keepers
We Are Sisters
Dee Brestin
Dee Brestin
Out of the Saltshaker
Rebecca Manley Pippert
HOSPITALITY
Lifestyle Evangelism
A Christian Woman’s Guide to Hospitality
Joe Aldrich
Quin Sherrer & Laura Walson
Open Heart, Open Home
FINANCES
Karen Burton Mains
Debt Free Living
The Personal Touch
Larry Burkett
Rachel Crabb
Master Your Money
Things Happen When Women Care
Ron Blue
Emilie Barnes
The Busy Mom’s Guide to Simple Living
We Didn’t Know They Were Angels
Jackie Wellwood
Doris W. Greig
The Financially Confident Woman
Mary Hunt
INFERTILITY
When Empty Arms Become A Heavy Burden
FORGIVENESS
Sandra Glahn & William Cutrer, M.D.
Forgiving Our Parents Forgiving Ourselves
The Gift of Forgiveness
The Ache for a Child: Emotional, Spiritual and Ethical Insights for Women Suffering through Infertility
and Pregnancy Loss
Charles Stanley
Debra Bridwell
Dr. David Stoop
Anger Workbook
LIKING MYSELF
Minirith & Meier
Beauty and the Best
A Christian woman’s guide to true beauty
Keeping Your Cool Without Losing It
Lisa Severe
Debra Evans
FRIENDSHIP
The Velveteen Woman
Brenda Wagoneer
Friends of the Heart
Donna Otto
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The Woman Behind the Mirror
Finding inward satisfaction with your outward
appearance
His Needs, Her Needs
Willard F. Harley Jr.
Will the Real Me Please Stand Up
Intimate Issues: Conversations Woman to
Woman
21 questions Christian women ask about sex
Lee Ezell
Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus
Judith Couchman
Women Ask About Sex
LOVING AN UNBELIEVING HUSBAND
Linda Dillow & Lorraine Pintus
Beloved Unbelievers
Love for A Lifetime
Jo Berry
Dr. James Dobson
Praying For Your Unbelieving Husband
Making Love Last Forever
Michael and Diane Fanstone
Gary Smalley
Unbelieving Husbands and the Wives Who Love
Them
Men are like Waffles and Women are like
Spaghetti
Michael and Diane Fanstone
Bill & Pam Farrel
LOVING MY HUSBAND
Reclaiming Intimacy in Your Marriage
Heart to Heart About Men
Robert & Debra Bruce
Nancy Groom
The Excellent Wife
A biblical perspective
How to Really Love Your Man
A mother’s letters to her daughters
Barbara Peace
Linda Dillow
The Five Love Languages
Gary Chapman
If Only He Knew
Gary Smalley
The Gift of Sex
Cliff & Joyce Penner
Promises Promises
Understanding and encouraging your husband
The Power of a Praying Wife
What If I Married the Wrong Person?
Help and hope for the question nearly every
couple asks
Stormie Omartian
Richard Matteson & Sam Harris
What Does She Want From Me Anyway?
MENTORING
Denalyn Lucado
Holly Faith Phillips
A Woman God Can Use
MARRIAGE
Alice Mathews
A Weekend with the One You Love
Do-it-yourself marriage retreat
Between Women of God
Donna Otto
Art Hunt
Connecting
Paul D. Stanley & J. Robert Clinton
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Finding a Mentor, Being a Mentor
Too Busy Not to Pray
Donna Otto
Bill Hybels
Mentoring
Transforming Your Prayer Life
Bob Biehl
Bob Beltz
Spiritual Mothering
The Power of a Praying Wife
Susan Hunt
Stormie Omartian
The Gentle Art of Mentoring
What Happens When Women Pray
Donna Otto
Evelyn Christenson
The Influential Woman
What Happens When God Answers Prayer
Vickie Kraft
Evelyn Christenson
Women Encouraging Women
PREGNANCY
Lucibel Van Atta
Women Helping Women
A biblical guide to the major issues women face
The Child Within
Nine months of spiritual preparation for the woman in
waiting
Elyse Fitzpatrick & Carol Cornish
Martha Peace
A Garden Path to Mentoring
QUESTIONING GOD
Esther Burroughs
Disappointment With God
PARENTING
Phillip Yancey
Discover Your Children’s Gifts
When God Says No
Doug & Kate Fortune
Leith Anderson
Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to
Parenting Teens
When God Doesn’t Make Sense
Dr. James Dobson
Paul David Tripp
How to Keep Your Kids on Your Team
QUIET TIME
Charles Stanley
A Quiet Place of Rest
Nancy Leigh DeMoss
Parenting Adolescents
Kevin Huggins
15 Minutes Alone with God
Emilie Barnes
Parenting Today’s Adolescents
Denis & Barbara Rainey
15 Minutes of Peace with God
Emilie Barnes
The Power of a Praying Parent
Stormie Omartian
Daily Bread Devotional
PRAYER
My Utmost For His Highest
Oswald Chambers
Conversations with God
Lloyd John Ogilvie
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One Year Book of Quiet Times with God
STAY AT HOME MOMS
Jill Briscoe
A Christian’s Guide To Working From Home
Lindsey O’Conner
Tapestry of Life
Devotions for the unique woman
No More Lone Ranger Moms
Nancy Corbett Cole
Donna Partow
The Oswald Chambers Daily Devotional Bible
No Ordinary Home
Oswald Chambers
Carol Brazo
The Satisfied Heart
31 days of experiencing God’s love
The Stay At Home Mom
Donna Otto
Ruth Myers
Women Leaving the Workplace
RESTORATION
Larry Burkett
Restoring the Wounded Woman
Recovering from heartache and discouragement
TIME MANAGEMENT
Melinda Fish
Get More Done In Less Time
The Cinderella Syndrome: Discovering God’s Plan
When Your Dreams Don’t Come True
Donna Otto
Emilie’s Creative Home Organizer
Lee Ezell
Emilie Barnes
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
SINGLENESS
Stephen R. Covey
Believing God for His Best: How to Marry
Contentment and Singleness
The Messy Motivator
New strategies to restoring order in your life and home
Bill Thrasher
Sandra Felton
Boundaries in Dating
Cloud & Townsend
When Every Hour’s a Rush Hour
Joann C. Webster
Dating With Integrity
John Holzanam
SEPARATION / DIVORCE
Passion and Purity
Moving On After He Moves Out
Elizabeth Elliot
Jim Conway, Ph.D. & Sally Conway, M.S.
The Single Solution
A survival guide for today’s single Christian woman
When A Mate Wants Out
Secrets for saving a marriage
Donna M. Cowan
Sally & Jim Conway
Women Home Alone...Learning to Thrive
Help for single women, single moms, widows and
wives who are frequently alone
When One Mate Wants to Leave
Donald R. Harvey
Patricia H. Sprinkle
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NLCC WOMEN’S
MENTORSHIP MINISTRY
APPLICATION
I AM INTERESTED IN BEING A
 Mentor
 Mentee
PERSONAL INFO
Name
Date of Birth
Address
Email
Phone
The preferred way to reach me is
Cell
 Phone
 Cell
 Email
PERSONAL PROFILE (confidential within the confines of the Mentorship Lead Team)
Current Occupation
Marital Status
S/M/D/W
Church Affiliation
Membership
Y / N/ in process
How often are you willing to meet in person with your partner? (minimum 1/month)
Recent church/volunteer involvement (Life Group, Bible Study, Worship etc)
Briefly describe your faith journey and/or salvation experience
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Briefly list significant life experiences that have defined you as a person
I AM SEEKING MENTORSHIP IN (please indicate any areas in which you have a strong interest)
Definition: Who Am I?
 Desiring to mature in spiritual discipline (Bible study, prayer, other)
 Seeking to identify strengths, spiritual gifts and life calling
 At a crossroads re: life role (divorce, new mom, etc.)
Please elaborate briefly
Discernment: What Is Happening?
 Desire insight on personal character growth issues
 Looking for a Biblical perspective on a specific life circumstance
 Insights re: relationships (pre-marital, marital, parental, peer)
Please elaborate briefly
Direction: What Can I Do?
 Insights re: career, vocation, work-related struggles
 Practical insights re: home-making/organizational challenges
Please elaborate briefly
Friendship and Fun!  no elaboration necessary
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MENTORSHIP AGREEMENT
MENTOR
As a Mentor, I ______________________________________agree to enter into this relationship
with _____________________________________________________for a period of 9 months,
beginning (date)_____________________________________________________.
I commit to meet with her face-to-face at least once a month, and communicate by phone or email or in person
each week. I covenant to value this relationship, and reflect that value with consistent prayer and prioritized scheduling. I agree to represent Biblical values as currently espoused by the pastoral staff of the church in which this
program is being offered, and to be wholly accountable to them in every aspect of this relationship. I commit to
maintaining absolute confidentiality within the parameters of the Mentorship leadership team.
*I resolve to self-disclose with courage, listen with mercy, challenge with kindness, and speak and act with integrity to the best of my ability.
FULL NAME (PRINTED)_______________________________________________
DATE ______________________________________________________________
SIGNATURE ________________________________________________________
*Exceptions to this policy of confidentiality include: any actual and/or perceived threat of abuse, violence, self-harm,
or illegal activities that may severely compromise the safety or reputation of any persons or groups. In that event,
no disclosure of private information will made outside of the Mentorship leadership team without prior knowledge of
both mentorship partners.
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MENTEE
As a Mentee, I ________________________________________ agree to enter into this relationship
with _______________________________________________________ for a period of 9 months,
beginning on (date)_____________________________________________.
I commit to meet with my Mentor face-to-face at least once a month, and welcome other communications by
phone or email or in person each week. I covenant to value this relationship, and reflect that value with consistent
prayer and prioritized scheduling. I understand that my Mentor will represent Biblical values as currently espoused
by the pastoral staff of the church in which this program is being offered, and be wholly accountable to them in
every aspect of this relationship. I commit to maintaining absolute confidentiality within the parameters of this
partnership, with the exclusion of my spouse, health practitioner, and/or pastor. I resolve to self-disclose with courage, listen with mercy, challenge with kindness, and speak and act with integrity to the best of my ability.
FULL NAME (PRINTED) ________________________________________________
DATE _______________________________________________________________
SIGNATURE__________________________________________________________
MENTEE WAIVER
I _________________________________________ am aware that the mentorship process in no way constitutes
professional counseling, but is an intentional 9 month friendship between two adults. I understand that I am fully
responsible for my own well-being during the course of this mentorship process. I understand that this mentorship can be terminated by either party at any time. I so stipulate by signing and dating this agreement in the space
provided below:
FULL NAME (PRINTED) __________________________________________________
DATE _________________________________________________________________
SIGNATURE ____________________________________________________________
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Ministry Volunteer Covenant
This Ministry Volunteer Covenant involves a commitment on the part of all church volunteers to embody attitudes and to
practise actions identified in the Bible as virtues, and to avoid those portrayed as destructive. As volunteers, we commit
themselves to:
 Actively maintain a relationship of accountability within a small group setting, such as Life Groups, and
other Church affinity groups with oversight of approved leaders.
 Receive direction and correction from those appointed to oversee the ministry in which I am a volunteer.
 Cultivate the Christian values of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness,
self-control, compassion, humility, forgiveness, reconciliation, mercy and justice.
 Live exemplary lives characterized by honesty, civility, generosity and integrity.
 Communicate in ways that build others up, according to their needs, for the benefit of all.
 Treat all with respect, upholding their God-given worth from conception to death.
 Be responsible citizens both locally and globally who respect authorities, submit to the laws of this
country, and contribute to the welfare of creation and society.
 Observe modesty, purity and appropriate intimacy in all relationships, reserve sexual expressions of
intimacy for marriage, and within marriage take every reasonable step to resolve conflict and avoid
divorce.
 Exercise careful judgment in all lifestyle choices, and take responsibility for personal choices and their
impact on others.
 Encourage and support other members of the community in their pursuit of Biblical values, extending
forgiveness, accountability, restoration, and healing to one another.
 Accept Biblical, formal accountability procedures to address actions by community members that
represent a disregard for this covenant.
 Abstain from communication that is destructive to the community life and inter–personal relationships,
including gossip, slander, vulgar/obscene language, and prejudice.
 Abstain from harassment, verbal or physical intimidation, including hazing.
 Abstain from lying, cheating, or other forms of dishonesty.
 Abstain from stealing, misusing or destroying property belonging to others.
 Abstain from sexual intimacy that violates the sacredness of marriage.
 Abstain from the use of materials that are degrading, dehumanizing, exploitive, hateful, or gratuitously
violent, including, but not limited to pornography.
 Abstain from drunkenness, under-age consumption of alcohol, the use or possession of illegal drugs,
and the misuse or abuse of substances including prescribed drugs.
By my agreement below I affirm that:
•
I have carefully read and considered this Covenant and agree to fulfilling its responsibilities while I am
serving on a team accountable to this church community.
Signed this day ______________________________________________________
Name: _____________________________________________________________
Church: ____________________________________________________________
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