OROPCHAT
Soroptimist International of Downtown Redding
P.O. Box 990695
Redding, CA 96099-0695
Charter Date: June 30, 2000
September 2015
Soroptimist “Best for Women”
Mission Statement
Soroptomist Aims:
To maintain high ethical standards in business and
professional life.
To strive for human rights for all people and, in
particular, to advance the status of women.
To quicken the spirit of service and human
understanding.
To contribute to international understanding and
universal friendship.
2015-2016 OFFICERS
President: Robin Glasco President
Elect: Alexis Riley Vice President:
Kristina Devan Secretary: Laura
Nuckols Treasurer: Vivian Piche’
Treasurer Elect: Cheryl Hull
Director: Connie Metcalf Delegates:
Britanny Nelson and Gail Buick
3rd ~ Cathi Lathrop-Cummings
17th ~ Kristin Devan
24th ~ Gayle Batti
Welcome new member Joline Robertson
1
developed the idea of a No Guilt Soroptimist Club over
15 years ago), emphasizes the balance between
flexibility and responsibility. When implementing a No
Guilt policy or philosophy, make sure that members
understand their core responsibilities such as paying
dues and participating in key club events. Be clear about
expectations and find ways to be flexible in how
members meet them.
“A true Soroptimist has many things going on in
her life at the same time,” said 2014-2015 President
Dyann O’Brien whose club SI/Eureka, CA has fully and
successfully embraced this philosophy. SI/Eureka keeps
the No Guilt message front and center, and offers email
updates between meetings so that those who can’t
attend are still in the loop.
Communicating expectations is a key part of the
recruitment process. As a prospect makes the decision
about whether to join your club, it will be crucial for her to
know up front exactly what is expected and required
from her, and it will be reassuring for her to understand
what type of flexibility may be offered. When you recruit
someone to join your club, remember that she may have
family, work, and other community responsibilities on her
plate already. But if she’s willing to give some of her time
to help your club in its mission to improve the lives of
women and girls, that’s what makes her a great potential
member.
Our 8th “Affairs of the Vine” event takes place on
Sunday, September 20th from 1:00-5:00
Join us at The White House located at Churn Creek
Golf Course (7335 Church Creek Road)
Outstanding food by Sodexo paired with your
choice of wine or beer
Fashion Show
Door Prizes and Raffles
Tickets $25.00 per person from:
Eventbrite – https://goo/gl/vbVB2D
Real Deals – 1419 Yuba Street (Downtown Mall)
Real Estate Group – 1950 Mission De Oro
Robin Glasco (left) and Lori Goyne
The NO GUILT Soroptimist Club.
Soroptimist International of Downtown Redding supports
Shasta Community Health Center's Teaching Health
Center international project supporting the Republic of
Dominica, a small impoverished island in the Caribbean
where they will be teaching neonatal resuscitation
techniques and bring training equipment to the school of
nursing and midwifery on the island. Check
out www.helpingbabiesbreathe.org. We gave a generous
donation today but WE NEED MORE HELP.
Contributions can be payable to SCHC Helping Babies
Breathe 1035 Placer Street Redding Ca 96001 and are
tax deductible. .
Across the federation, many leaders have
promoted a club philosophy that’s more positive, flexible,
and better aligned with the lifestyles of today’s active
women—the No Guilt Club. This is a great option for
clubs that want to promote a welcoming and positive
environment, without the pressure or guilt that can come
along with strict tracking of attendance. A No Guilt Club
accepts members at varied levels of engagement, and
recognizes each member gives what she can. Clubs
should realize that a member’s ability to participate may
change over time, and avoid casting negativity her way
during a period of lower involvement.
However—this doesn’t mean that No Guilt Clubs
shouldn’t set basic standards and expectations for all
members! Cathy Standiford, past SIA president and
2014-2015 treasurer of SI/Garden Grove (the club that
2
Soroptimist International who have partnered with us to
help bring this to fruition!
Please feel free to reach out to me with any
further questions. I would also love and highly
recommend for any of you to schedule a 30 minute tour
of our facility to see more of what we do and how we do
it. We are so excited for this upcoming season of
partnerships in the community and how we can link arms
to better serve our community!
www.carenetnorcal.org
Lori,
Wishing you buckets of wonder,
Thank you so much for reaching out. Please forgive me
for my delay.
We are so very grateful for these funds and
were honored to receive it. We used the full $1,000
donation toward our educational incentive program
called “Learning for Life”. The program is focused on
education throughout pregnancy and throughout their
child’s third year.
Both men and women (and/or an additional
support person) can participate in the program to help
equip them to make healthy choices re: prenatal care,
safety, nutrition, infant care, parenting, early literacy,
healthy relationships, labor and delivery, breastfeeding
and so much more. They attend group classes or one on
one mentoring on site, as well as attend classes off site
to help educate them throughout this very vital season of
their lives of becoming and being parents. For everything
that they attend, they earn “points”. Those points are
translated into dollars in which they can “purchase”
diapers, wipes, clothing, furniture, baby items, etc.
With the funds, we were able to upgrade our
curriculum to all the most revised content, as well as add
in a Labor and Delivery curriculum.
Mercy Hospital is the only agency that offers
these classes for free. We wanted to help fill in the gaps
with the high demand for this need in the community.
We have a veteran doula who volunteers at our
center and facilitates this quarterly group class (hosts up
to 20 clients per class for free).
We also used the revised curriculum and
developed an on-site group class (host up to 20 clients
per week, per visit) called Pregnancy and Beyond.
Please see attached flyer. It has been a huge success
for the 18 week class that we have hosted for
Spring/Summer.
We have used this curriculum at both of our
centers, located in Redding and Red Bluff.
We have had the opportunity to serve between
both centers: 2,833 clients from Oct 2014 – July 2015!
For Red Bluff alone: 894 clients and the Redding Center:
1,940 clients.
A VERY big thank you to all of the women at
Shelly Gibbs I Executive Director I
The Sierra Center - Opening 9/21/15
The Sierra Center the future home of One SAFE Place
where women, children and men affected by domestic
and sexual abuse find help, hope and healing.
On May 7, 2013 Sandy Miller, a 34 year-old
mother and her two young daughters, Shelby 8 and
Shasta 5, were brutally murdered in their home. The
domestic violence related triple homicide shocked and
saddened the close-knit community of Shingletown and
outraged the residents of Shasta County. Just weeks
prior to the murders, Sandy came to One SAFE Place
with her children and their family dog, seeking help. She
was offered refuge at the shelter, but in part because of
her concerns about the crowded conditions, she did not
stay.
The violent deaths of Sandy and her children
had a profound effect on the One SAFE Place volunteer
board of directors. It was the catalyst that put in motion
a process to create and implement a plan to address the
3
urgent need to improve and expand shelter and support
services for victims of domestic and sexual abuse.
The existing shelter has provided refuge to thousands
over nearly 40 years of service and has saved countless
lives, but due to its crowded conditions, lack of privacy
and security concerns, the space no longer meets the
urgent needs of the community. Not a day goes by that
law enforcement doesn’t respond to a domestic violence
related incident. Victims of domestic and sexual abuse in
Shasta County, both men and women, often with small
children, seek refuge at One SAFE Place. It is the only
organization in the county that provides a safe house
and support services for domestic and sexual abuse
victims.
Currently our shelter hosts twenty-six beds are
distributed among the three sleeping rooms in the
house. The cramped space, shared with others in crisis,
can cause increased stress and fear for those in search
of safety.
To learn more about making a donation, notify
One SAFE place at 244-0118 or go on line to
www.ospshasta.org.
Time is our most valuable asset,
yet we tend to waste it, kill it,
and spend it rather than
invest it.
Get Messy!
Too often we play it safe in life because we’re
afraid of making mistakes.
The great Master Painter allows you and me to
take up our little brushes and paint our lives in a
multitude of colors – some that clash, some that take
others by surprise or provoke disapproval. In all of this,
He looks down on us in love, He smiles, He celebrates
our uniqueness.
So take risks with your kids. Do crazy things.
Surprise your husband. Have dinner all set up in the
yard with candles and music. Dress in a whole new
style. Change your hairstyle or color. Paint a wall –
every wall! If you’ve seen the television show The Magic
School Bus, you’ll remember Miss Frizzel’s moto. “Take
chances, get messy, make mistakes.” Amen, Miss
Frizzell!
SIDR will be decorating our signature room at The Sierra
Center with a relaxing beach theme. Lori Goyne of the
Service Committee will be sending updates. Please
notify her if you have any suggestions or would like to
become involved in the planning and completion of this
project.
If you are not getting your e-mail from SIA, first
check your junk/spam mail and be sure it is not being
blocked.
If it is not being blocked then, go to
www.Soroptimist.org, click "Members Only". In the blue
box on the right, click "Update Member Profile". Using
your member number as both your user name and
password, you can login to your profile and update your
e-mail with SIA. It is that easy!
Sheila Wash, The Great Adventure
To get your Live Your Dream e-mails, simply register
at www.LiveYourDream.org.
Just because it hasn’t
been done before
doesn’t mean you
shouldn’t try it.
If someone in your club is not getting these e-mails,
have them first check their junk/spam to be sure it is not
being blocked. Then they can contact Coordinator
Tracey at [email protected].
Howard Schultz
Governor Jackie
4
DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF . . . and it’s
to obsess on your schedule. You’ll be amazed at how
effective it can be.
all small stuff. Simple ways to keep the little things from
taking over your life.
By Richard Carlson, PH.D.
Be Aware of the Snowball Effect of
Your Thinking
Leaders must learn to dicipline their dissapointments.
A powerful technique for becoming more peaceful is to
be aware of how quickly your negative and insecure
thinking can spiral out of control. Have you ever noticed
how uptight you feel when you’re caught up in your
thinking? And, to top it off, the more absorbed you get in
the details of whatever is upsetting you, the worse you
feel. One thought leads to another and yet another, until
at some point, you become incredibly agitated.
For example, you might wake up in the middle of
the night and remember a phone call that needs to be
made the following day. Then, rather than feeling
relieved that you remembered such an important call,
you start thinking about everything else you have to do
tomorrow. You start rehearsing a probably conversation
with your boss, getting yourself even more upset. Pretty
soon you think to yourself, “II can’t believe how busy I
am. I must make fifty phone calls a day. Whose life is
this anyway?” and on and on it goes until you’re feeling
sorry for yourself. For many people, there’s no limit to
how long this type of “thought attack” can go on. The
fact, I’ve been told by clients that many of their days and
nights are spent in this type of mental rehearsal.
Needless to say, it’s impossible to feel peaceful with
your head full of concerns and annoyances.
The solution is to notice what’s happening in
your head before your thoughts have a chance to build
any momentum. The sooner you catch yourself in the
act of building your mental snowball, the easier it is to
stop. In our example here, you might notice your
snowball thinking right when you start running through
the list of what you have to do the next day. Then,
instead of obsessing on your upcoming day, you say to
yourself, “Whew, there I go again,” and consciously nip it
in the bud. You stop your train of thought before it has a
chance to get going. You can then focus, not on how
overwhelmed you are, but on how grateful you are for
remembering the phone call that needed to be made. If
it’s the middle of the night, write it down on a piece of
paper and go back to sleep. You might even consider
keeping a pen and paper by the bed for such moments.
You may indeed be a very busy person, but
remember that filling your head with thoughts of how
overwhelmed you are only exacerbates the problem by
making you feel even more stressed than you already
do. Try this simple little exercise the next time you begn
It is not what happens to us, it is what we choose to do
about what happens that makes the difference in how
out lives turn out.
Why Some Species Eat Their Young
Wife: “Donald, when was the last time we received a
letter from our son?”
Husband: “Just a second, honey, I’ll go look in the
checkbook.”
Abby Halladay has the perfect
life. Or, rather, she will…as long
as everything goes exactly
according to plan. Abby never
leaves anything to chance—not
her job as a syndicated
columnist, not her engagement
to her fiancé, Fred, and certainly
not her impending wedding in
Paris (New Jersey, that is).
Unfortunately for Abby,
even the best-laid plans often go awry—like when Fred
runs away to Paris (France, that is), her column is
canned, and her dream home is diagnosed with termites.
Forced to move back in with her parents and drive her
dad’s cab, Abby’s perfect life has now officially become
the perfect disaster.
Then a funny thing happens. Slowly but surely,
Abby begins letting go of her dreams of perfection. As
she does, the messy, imperfect life she thought she
never wanted starts to feel exactly like the one she
needs.
Poignant and heartfelt, Changing Lanes celebrates the
unexpected joys of everyday life—and the enduring
promise of second chances.
5
4,000 YEARS OF
contests in Trojan times, to taking them.
The
inscriptions and the black stone base of Cynisca’s
statuary still exist, on display in the Olympia Museum in
central Greece.
Uppity Women by Vicki Leon
First Woman to Win Olympic “Gold”
The Grounds of Coffee left
after using this liquid, are
an excellent ingredient to
mix with the earth used in
flower pots.
Our grandmothers’ custom
was to put it on the surface
also, in order to keep the
earth moist, and they had
roses in bloom all the year
round in their windows.
Daughter of a Spartan king and sister to another,
Cynisca was born into a life of privilege that bored her.
Being a mere land baroness did not appeal, either,
although 40 percent of the land in the huge city-state of
Sparta was owned by women like her. In Sparta’s
militaristic society, girls had a longtime tradition of
wrestling, running, riding horses, and bathing nude in ice
rivers with the boys. It sounds healthy and independent
to modern ears – but the Spartans mainly sought fit
mothers and healthier babies to make future soldiers.
Early in life, Cynisca became horse-happy,
breeding and training her own animals. She is said to
have begun lobbying her brother Angesilaus to let her
enter a four-horse chariot in the upcoming Olympic
Games, or perhaps it was the other way around, since
sources emphatically do not agree. It seems likely that
she wanted to hold the reins herself, as Spartan women
commonly did in daily life. Whether she got to remains
ambiguous.
Zenophon, an ancient souce, says Cynisca’s
kindly brother persuaded his sister to try for the
Olympics. His motive, Xenophon claims was to show
that chariot racing was proof only of wealth, not “manly
virtue.” Whatever her motives, Cynisca took first-place
wins at least twice, in the Olympics of 396 and 392 B.C.
Besides a hero-shrine in Sparta, that honor
entitled her to place a life-size bronze statue of herself
and her horses at the temples of Zeus in Olympia and
Sparta. Its inscription exults” “Sparta’s kings were
fathers and brothers of mine; victorious with my chariot
of swift-footed horses I, Cynisca, have erected this
statue. I declare myself the only woman in all Hellas to
have won this crown. Apelles son of Callicles made it.”
Cynisca deserved a good gloat. Thanks to her and the
five or more women emboldened to follow her lead,
Greek women went from being the prizes at athletic
If Only I Knew. . .
I would never hear your voice again.
I would cherish your every word . .
every inflecton of your voice . . .
with all my heart
You are somebody’s reason to smile!
6
You thought you knew
what love was
before your child got into your heart.
There is no limit,
no measure,
no end to this love.
You belong . . .
While I Still Can Dance
literally . . . to each other.
I will celebrate the relationships I share
and never take them for granted.
I will treasure them
as one of life’s sweetest joys.
That little girl is yours, and you are hers.
That boy is priceless . . . the joy of your
soul.
Three friends from the local congregation were asked,
"When you're in your casket, and friends and
congregation members are mourning over you, what
would you like them to say?"
Artie said, "I would like them to say I was a wonderful
husband, a fine spiritual leader, and a great family man."
Eugene commented, "I would like them to say I was a
wonderful teacher and servant of God who made a huge
difference in people's lives."
Al said, "I'd like them to say, 'Look, he's moving!'"
Cleaning is just putting stuff into less obvious places.
One Sunday in a Midwest City a young child was “acting
up” during the morning worship hour. The parents did
their best to maintain some sense of order in the pew but
were losing the battle. Finally, the father picked the little
fellow up and walked sternly up the aisle on his way out.
Just before reaching the safety of the foyer the little one
called loudly to the congregation, “Pray for me, pray for
me!”
Nature never gives up. . .
7
Letitia "Tish" Baldrige
(1926 – 2012) was an
American etiquette expert
and public relations executive who
was most famous for serving
as Jacqueline Kennedy's Social
Secretary.
Career]
Known as the "Doyenne of
Decorum", she wrote a newspaper
column, ran her own PR firm, and, along with
updating Amy
Vanderbilt's
Complete
Book
of
Etiquette, she published 20 books and appeared on Late
Night with David Letterman and the cover of Time
Magazine.
Letitia Baldrige was born February 9, 1926 in Miami,
Florida, and grew up in Omaha, Nebraska, the youngest
child of Republican Congressman Howard Malcolm
Baldrige and his wife, Regina (née Connell). Her brother
was Howard Malcolm Baldrige, Jr., the initial Secretary
of Commerce during the Ronald Reagan administration.
She attended Miss Porter's School in Farmington, CT,
where she met Jacqueline Bouvier, the future First
Lady. The two also attended Vassar College together,
from which Baldrige graduated in 1946 with a bachelor's
degree in psychology.
Early career ~ After first being denied a position and told
to improve her secretarial skills, she reapplied and was
hired by the State Department as social secretary
to David K.E. Bruce, US ambassador to France. After
three years she would be appointed secretary in Rome
to the American ambassador to Italy, Clare Boothe Luce,
followed by a position as director of public relations for
the jeweler Tiffany & Co.
1946
Bachelor's in Psychology, Vassar
College
1946–1948
Graduate studies, Université de
Genève, Switzerland
1948–1951
Personal Social Secretary to David
K. E. Bruce, U.S. Ambassador, Paris
1951–1953
Intelligence Officer, American
Embassy, Paris
1953–1956
Assistant to Clare Boothe Luce, U.S.
Ambassador, Rome
1956–1961
Director, Public Relations, Tiffany &
Co.
1961–1963
Social Secretary and Chief of Staff for
Jacqueline Kennedy
1964–1969
President, Letitia Baldrige Enterprises,
Chicago
1969–1971
Director, Consumer Affairs, Burlington
Industries
1972–2005
President, Letitia Baldrige Enterprises,
New York City
2006–2012
Baldrige & Lewris, Washington DC
The honor recognized her effort to appear on the Inman
Literacy Foundation Lecture Series.
Although then a registered Republican, in 1960 she was
invited to work for the Kennedy campaign in
Massachusetts once he secured the Democratic
presidential nomination, going on to work officially for the
First Lady after his victory. Saying she "had had it" with
the long days in Washington and serving the
administration on overseas trips, she resigned early in
1963, to return briefly to aid the First Lady after her
husband's assassination in November of that year.
In the White House days, I became accustomed to
receiving a telephone call from the office of a most
important senator on the afternoons of state dinners,
asking what was on that night’s menu. Based on how
the senator felt about the food he would be served, the
staff members would either say, “Thank you very much”
and hang up, because everything was okay, or would
issue a breathless “I’m sorry, but he will be unable to
attend tonight because of a suddenly-called important
meeting.” The important meeting was, of course, the
fact that the senator disliked duck, which was on that
night’s menu. He preferred to eat steak that evening
with his colleagues in the Senate dining room, so that
was what he did!
We should remember, of course, that back “in
the old days,” guests could not demand that certain
foods be served to them or not be served to them. As a
mother would say, “Eat what’s put in from of you, that’s
all the discussion there will be!”
After the Kennedy White House ~ She served on the
board of directors of the Malcolm Baldrige National
Quality Award. She also did significant charity work
with Jane Goodall to help fund raise for the preservation
of habitats for wild chimpanzees.
In 1964, the year after marrying her husband Robert
Hollensteiner, whom she met while working for a
Kennedy family firm, she founded her own PR business,
Letitia Baldrige Enterprises, Chicago. Earning the
nickname the "Doyenne of Decorum" with a newspaper
column and a string of successful books, in 1978 she
appeared on the November 28th cover of Time
Magazine.
Letitia Baldlrige
8
Viki Cubbage, Editor
I pledge allegiance to Soroptimism and to the
ideals for which it stands
The Sincerity of Friendship
The Joy of Achievement
The Dignity of Service
The integrity of Profession
The Love of Country
I will put forth my greatest effort to promote,
uphold, and defend these ideals, for a larger
fellowship in home, in society, in business for
country and for
9