Domestic Violence
Hand in Hand Counselling March Newsletter
Special points of interest:
> Domestic Violence is crime
> Domestic violence hurts everyone
> Children witnessing domestic violence is
against the law
Domestic Violence
is a crime
Hand In Hand Counselling Services
> Domestic Violence is NOT ok
Relationships Need
Love
Respect
Empathy
Compassion
Tolerance
Openness
Trust
Domestic Violence is NOT ok
Domestic Violence (DV) is the
leading contributor to death,
disability and physical and
mental ill health in women
aged 15-44 years (Vic Health
2004)
Children exposed to Family
Domestic Violence (FDV) also
experience negative impacts
on their physical and mental
development (Perry 2001)
The health of women and
children continue to be
negatively impacted for some
time after the violence
(Fishman et
al,2010;Humprey 2007)
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As a counselling therapist I
see the impacts of domestic
violence on women and
children on a regular basis. It
deeply saddens me that one
human being thinks they
What is an Apprehensive
Domestic Violence Order
(ADVO)
An Apprehensive Domestic
Violence Order (ADVO) is an
order that a court makes to
protect people. The order
tells the defendant what they
must not do. The defendant
must obey the order.
have the right to treat
another human being so
badly. Domestic violence
gives the victim a false
perspective of the world.
They see the world as unsafe
and scary. No woman, man
or child deserves to be a
victim of domestic violence.
Many people think that
domestic violence is just
physical abuse. It is much
more than physical abuse.
Domestic Violence is:
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Physical
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Financial
Emotional/
psychological
Violence happens in many
relationships:
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Intimate
Ex partner
Parents
Friends
Family
Neighbors
Adult children
If you know anyone who is
experiencing any form of
domestic or family violence
they can contact the police
in their local area.
Social
Sexual
Stalking
Intimidation
Harassment
Domestic Violence
Statistics
1 in 4 women reporting
physical violence are aged
45 years or older and the
greatest increase is among
women age 55 years and
older.
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3/4 of domestic assault
victims are women and
children, with women more
likely to be victims than men
69% women and 31% men.
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Healing Affirmation
My Heart is receptive
and open.
By Louise. L. Hay
Hand in Hand Counselling Services: 0407-916 864 or www.hih.net.au
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Domestic Violence is NOT ok
54% of women and children
seeking housing assistance
name DFV as their main reason
for needing accommodation.
Women who identify as having
a disability experience abuse at
a much higher rate than the
rest of the population and are
more vulnerable to abuse for
longer periods of time because
of their greater dependence,
need for assistance and social
isolation.
In over 1/3 of homicides, the
offender and the victim were in
a domestic or family relationship and only 1 in 10 of these
women were known to police.
So let me comment on the
above statistic and say that it is
obvious that women are afraid
to make reports to police about
the domestic or family
violence. This means that
women and children are living
in violence on a daily basis. We
as a community need to be
spreading the word that any
form of violence on women,
men or children is absolutely
NOT ok.
We need to protect our friends,
family and community from
violence by speaking out and
saying that VIOLNCE IS NOT
OK.
VIOLENCE IS
NOT OK
Stress
Stress causes
heart attacks,
stroke and high
blood pressure.
Learn to manage
your stress today.
Stress today seems to be a
natural part of one’s life, it is
like stress has become our
best friend and that life without stress would be unnatural.
Stress can have a detrimental
impact on one’s well being
and can take a toll on your
mental, emotional and
physical well being.
What can cause
stress?
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Death of a partner
Relationship break up
Divorce
Injury or serious illness
Marriage problems
Losing a job
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Moving home
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Going to prison
Retirement
Changing a job
Arguments
Mortgage problems
Financial worries
Difficult work
environment
Starting school
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Sexual problems
How to manage stress
Stress impacts each person
very differently and coping with
our stress is unique to each
person. Following is a list of
ways you can better manage
your stress:
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Meditation
Relaxation
Breathing
Massage
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Counselling
Healthy diet
Plenty of sleep
Exercise
Fresh Vegetable and
Fruit Blend
Beetroot, celery, apple and
carrot. Tastes really yummy!
Yoga
Reiki healing
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Tea Blend
Valarian Tea has a mild tranquillizer effect, just add a teaspoon of honey for sweetening.
Meditation
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About Bernadette
Bernadette is a therapist, healer , personal empowerment specialist and
a meditation teacher. She has been working with clients since 2005.
I am willing to see and
where I need to change
By Louise L Hay
Bernadette has recognised that many people feel disempowered as a
result of life experiences, unhealthy relationships and the pressures of
life itself. Bernadette likes to empowering people and evoke an inner
awareness, memories, feelings and images, using meditation, breathing,
visualisation, symbolic work and body sensations to help bring people
one step closer to realising themselves.
When one realises themselves, they are a witness to the true self.
For more information about Bernadette go to www.hih.net.au
Meditation
Calming Breathing
Technique
Ensure that you are comfortable either in your chair or lying
on the floor.
Now take a breath in for 4 seconds (through the nose if possible)
Hold your breath for 2 seconds
Now release your breath taking
6 seconds (through the nose if
possible) then slightly pause
before breathing again. (repeat
above)
Meditation brings
Buddhist breathe
meditation—21 breath
technique
Gently watch the breath and on
each out breath, just count the
breath – do this 21 times
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Meditation is a wonderful way
to bring a sense of peacefulness into your life. When was
the last time you felt peace or
tranquillity in your life?
Start by meditating
TODAY and reap the
rewards of calmness and
peacefulness.
a gently
When was the
last time you
felt peace or
tranquillity in
your life?
peacefulness into
my life. The more
I practice
meditation the
more
peacefulness I
invite.
The Meditation Room (Sati Dhyann Bhawan) which means ”Mindfulness Meditation House”
Our Meditation room was built
from 2009 –2010. My dearest
husband Mark built the room.
He spent many months working
after work and on weekends to
get the room to what it is today.
suffering. In my work as a
counsellor and meditation
teacher, I create a space to
bring awareness into the lives
of those I work with. With
awareness comes change,
when we change we reduce the
suffering and ultimately live
happier lifestyles.
The meditation room was
blessed by our local Thai
Buddhist Temple at Leumeah.
WE ARE VERY GREATFUL
The reason we chose the room
to be blessed by Buddhist
FOR THE BLESSING THANK
Monks is that Buddhism
YOU TO THE THAI BUDDHIST
symbolizes the cessation of all
TEMPLE AT LEUMEAH
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Campbelltown/Macarthur
Phone: 0407 916 864
Website: www.hih.net.au
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A Morning of Silence
(includes meditation and mindfulness)
Weekly Meditation Class
This class is held on Monday evenings. The
class is designed to practice and experience
meditation.
Cost: $140.00 (Payable in full on the first
night)
Date: Every school term .
Time: 7pm – 8pm
www.hih.net.au
This 3 hour workshop is designed to bring silence into your
life. It will give you a very brief experience of internal
stillness. The 3 hours will be spent in complete silence,
except the instructions given to you by the facilitator. This
workshop is only for those who are serious about
experiencing silence.
Cost: $45.00 Date:14 April Time: 10am – 1pm
Learn to Transcend in Meditation
This class will run every fortnight for both men and women
who want to learn to use a mantra in meditation. This
course will teach you several mantras and you then
choose your own mantra for meditation. We invite you to
come along and join us for a wonderful meditation
experience. This course will be facilitated by Mark and
Bernadette Sutherland
Cost: $70.00 (Payable on the first night)
Date: 24 April, 8 May, 22 May, 5 June & 19 June
Time: 7pm – 8.15pm (Tuesday)
Great News
I have been working hard with a friend of mine Brian Stark, who is a musician, to get my
first guided visualisation meditation CD ready……. We are very close now and I am
hoping to have the CD completed and ready for sale by May 2012. I am very excited to
launch my first CD. The album is called “The Valley of Silence”
The Passion Test by Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood
In Meditation I discover the truth that
While I was working with my business coach Neel Raman he recommended a book called The
lies within me. I am truth
Passion Test by Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood. This book was amazing and took me on
By Bernadette Sutherland
a journey of understanding what I am most passionate about in life. Once I identified my
passions I felt like I had a purpose in life. I started to understand what is important to me and
instead of living life with no direction, I started to have a clear direction. Having direction in life
is empowering .
I want to share a couple of my life passions with you, because I think identifying what you are
passionate about can give you a whole new lease on life.
1. I am living my true self (I really wanted to live and breath my own true identity . I
wanted to stop pleasing people and stand in my own truth) Being me feels great, yet to be truly
honest I am still discovering my true self and learning to be that everyday. I don’t like to admit
this, but my false self still gets in the way on occasions but I am now aware of this and have an
opportunity to change it.
2. To be teaching meditation classes (Since I was introduced to meditation and started
teaching in 2007, it has become my passion). I believe that meditation is a wonderful practice
for discovering your true self.
If you need any business coaching please go to www.focusedon.com.au and read up on Neel
Raman. I highly recommend him. He is a wonderful business coach and his patience needs to
be bottled. Thank you Neel.