“Friends Indeed” OCT/DEC 2014 NEWSLETTER (PROVERBS 18:24) *ISSUE * FELLOWSHIPPING * No.35* ////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////// BENJAMIN Fellowshipping What is Fellowship? Webster defines Fellowship as: The condition of sharing mutual interests, ideals, experiences, or beliefs; to be part of a group, a body of people. The word comes from the Greek word “Koinonia” which has several applications in the English language. Most simply it means having and sharing something in common. Why is it necessary? What goes on during our fellowshipping that makes it so important? I’m glad you asked. By coming together in fellowship, we can engage the opportunity to share with others the ways in which we have been blessed. We can relay to the assembly the new spiritual revelations we have been given through the week. We can also pray together through one another’s pain and sorrows, and share each other’s joys. As we continue to grow in our understanding of the scriptures, we see the powerful impact they can have on our lives. We can come together in fellowship and share with one another the things we have learned. We can seize the opportunity to share our points of view and hear another point of view about various scriptures. You cannot do that through the radio or TV. There are many people who “fellowship” with their radio or television. On any given Sunday morning they turn on their favorite gospel station, and listen their favorite ministers preach and teach the word of God. While you can learn and grow from these ministries, the need for us to come together physically is very important. God’s Word tells us “iron sharpens iron” (Prov. 27:17). This signifies that by touching and rubbing together, we rub the dull areas of our Christian experience to the point of sharpness like rubbing two knives together. This is what happens when we fellowship together in person… we not only see or hear the pastor preach, but we also see, hear, and feel the reactions of our fellow believers. The joy and excitement of God’s word is contagious, and that joy is multiplied when expressed in the presence of others. We need to feel and experience the power of the Holy Spirit as he moves throughout the assembly. The Bible says: “For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there I am in the midst...” (Matt.18:20). This is not to say that He is not present with us at all other times, but that there is power in numbers, and we can strengthen and encourage each other when we come together in fellowship. We “should not forsake the fellowshipping of the saints” (Hebrews 10:25). We should not stop gathering together with other believers. Nothing should cause us to neglect our meeting together. Difficulties or hard times should never be an excuse for missing church services. Instead, when problems arise, we should come together with those we have something in common with. We should lay our problems out before the assembly. As we come together in fellowship asking God to provide our solutions according to His will, we are bound to learn that He is faithful. Fellowship in Christ – Greg Sunday mornings for me involve a trip downtown to volunteer at the breakfast ministry where I met Benjamin (the editor of this newsletter). He had just been released from prison, and when we started talking I knew we were going to be friends. There was an instant bond between us in our love for God and an easiness in our communication. We saw things similarly and wanted the same thing – to draw close to God by engaging ministries of service. The fellowship of Christians is wonderful. I can meet someone for the first time and know that it will be easy to like them, to work with them, to learn from them and to teach them. I can ask for and give help without fear of being misunderstood. There’s none of this “What’s he up to?” The presence of the Holy Spirit is what makes Christian work and fellowship so enjoyable. It is knowing that the others that I stand beside are also part of God’s plan and are of infinite value to Him, knowing that my work has significance in the Kingdom even if I can’t see what it is, and knowing that God will protect me and that I have nothing to fear. It is freedom from needing to know my long-term objective – the only objective is to share the gospel. I have recently been reading the devotional by Oswald Chambers, Utmost for His Highest. The lesson on November 10 is about Fellowship in the Gospel. Chambers writes: “After sanctification it is difficult to state what your aim in life is, because God has taken you up into His purpose by the Holy Spirit.” As we push on in our quest to be better people, we need to lose ourselves to God and stop putting up barriers to God’s use of us. We’ve got to stop telling God what we want. I often hear Christians speak about their calling, and I believe this is a mistake. People I’ve known talk about their future and being called into a music ministry, or a preaching ministry, or heading a church. Some people say, “I’ve been anointed for such-and-such.” What if God’s plan for you is different from your vision of the future? You’ll just get in the way of His perfect will. Being a Christian leads to a focus on verbs, not nouns. It’s about how we act and react in our fellowship with others, not what we accomplish. None of us have much of a clue about where God is calling us. God doesn’t lay out His plan to us because we couldn’t possibly understand it. When the Bible speaks of God’s call (Isaiah 6), it is first to Himself and then we are told to go out and preach the Good News. It’s that simple. We all need to stop telling God what we want and start doing what He’s told us to do. When we talk about our calling we are asserting our individuality and how we are distinct. Individuality is the characteristic of physical man, not spiritual man. Being known for something, being famous, being respected, and being admired all involve setting ourselves apart from others. While it is true that we Christians are called to be apart from the world (Romans 12:2), we are also called to be one with Christ. The prayer of Jesus in John 17 is for all believers as He is about to depart from them: My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one – I in them and you in me – so that they may be brought to complete unity. Then the world will know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me. (John 17:20-23) We surrender our individuality when God touches our heart and we are born again. We are called to fellowship in Christ and to become more like Him. We can’t strive for fame or wealth. We can only strive for fellowship. It is in the fellowship of Christ that we find our identity and our true self. It is absurd to talk about being born again if we have the same goals that we had before we were saved. Where are you in your walk with Christ? How much of your day do you consciously talk to Him? Do you see Him in the ordinary things of life, in every detail? What is He showing you? What is He encouraging you to remove in your life, and what is He encouraging you to acquire? Don’t worry about seeing the grand plan – just take it one step at a time. You’ll be surprised where you’ll end up. -Why We FellowshipWe come together to fellowship … the share what God has done To identify with Jesus Christ, His one and only Son We come together and meet the folks that God wants us to know Folks like us, but different … we can help each other grow Folks that we can learn from … and folks that we can teach Folks to help us stay within the Holy Spirit’s reach We come together to fellowship as we praise our God above We come together and learn about His Unconditional Love We do not meet to pamper those who pat us on the back We do not meet to judge those who have fallen off the track We do not meet to applaud ourselves and brag about our “calling” We meet to honor the only one who can keep us from falling God wants for us to know Him and to understand His will And to keep our pride and selfishness from taking us downhill Fellowshipping plays the role of keeping us in tune Preparing us to meet our Lord, who is coming very soon God wants for us to fellowship with each other … you and me We need often come together … to express why we are free We need to give our testimonies; we need to tell our story How God has turned our life around and how we give Him glory We come together to honor God and listen as He speaks Sunday mornings, Wednesday evenings, and often through the weeks Assembling of the saints is something we all are called to do (Heb 10:25) Let’s honor what God has asked … and meet together, me and you Let us come together more often as this New Year takes its course And let the fellowshipping with GOD be our #1 resource God is in each one of us … we bring Him when we meet And if we “agree” together … we will never face defeat! (Matt. 18:19-:20) By Benjamin L. Graham Jan12, 2015 Dr. Sharron Tucker Mt. Olivet Baptist Church 428 East Main St. What a Fellowship! Luke 1:39-47 I like to talk about my Aunt Alice. For much of her life until she was 94, Aunt Alice lived alone in the house built by her father and in which she was born. In her 94 years, she experienced untold challenges but she never seemed to weaken. Aunt Alice understood how to navigate life. A little banty rooster of a woman—barely 5’2—my aunt had an adage to guide you through every situation. “It’s a poor road that doesn’t have a turning. A man that will steal an egg, will steal a chicken. Every closed eye ain’t sleep. A dog that’ll bring a bone will carry a bone. Lie low, catch meddlers.” Her sayings would make you chuckle—or scratch your head—but they also had a ring of truth. Aunt Alice knew what life was all about and she willingly shared her wisdom with me, even when my hard head refused to hear. My aunt may have lived alone but she wasn’t anti-social. In fact, she enjoyed selective fellowship with neighbors and friends. I say “selective” because Aunt Alice believed that “association brings on assimilation.” She would quickly say, “If you lay down with dogs, you’ll get up with fleas.” So she was careful who she drew to her bosom. I was one of the fortunate few and, as I grew older and experienced my share of trouble, I learned to value her wisdom. I also learned to value her God. Everybody needs somebody but it pays, like Aunt Alice, to be discerning when seeking fellowship—especially when troubled and vulnerable. I urge you, when you have quiet time, to read Chapter 1 of Luke; he shows us what kind of fellowship to seek. In Luke 1, Mary’s in trouble. She’s young. Fifteen or so. And engaged. In Bible times, that was practically the same as being married. Mary’s a virgin but Mary’s pregnant. Not by her fiancé but by a ghost. If that’s not trouble, I don’t know what trouble is. Mary needs to talk with somebody and not with a dog that would carry a bone. She needs true fellowship and the good news is that she finds exactly what she needs. I wonder how Aunt Alice would interpret what Luke has to say. Luke shows Mary seeking someone on the same spiritual plane. Aunt Alice would say that true fellowship is found when “water seeks its own level.” Did you know that two bodies of water connected by a hose will adjust themselves until they are at the same level? Only then will the water become peaceful and still. In the same way, a person tends to seek people they feel are equal or have the same point of view. I’ve learned something, though, over the years and often the hard way. To experience peace, the point of view has to come from God. Here we have Mary, impossibly with child and Elizabeth, post-menopausal, barren but pregnant. Here’s Mary, confused but obedient and Elizabeth, daring to trust an angel. They have a lot in common. Both are targets for gossip, criticism or, at the least, curiosity. Both love the Lord and both need true fellowship. It doesn’t look like anyone in Nazareth has signed up for Mary’s support system. Joseph wants to “put her away quietly” and not a word is said of Mary’s parents. You can imagine the whisperings of her neighbors. So Mary (water) seeking her own level (Elizabeth) sets out for the hill country of Judea. Why not just settle for somebody, anybody nearby? Before I learned to listen to Aunt Alice and to Luke, that’s what I used to do. Maybe you settled, too, for just anybody who’d let you talk, anybody offering minimal interaction, anybody helping you not to be alone. I have, but here’s the problem. When our inmost concerns are revealed to folks who don’t share our values, we can end up in a state worse than we were in alone. Sometimes we have to search far and wide for the right person with whom to fellowship because true fellowship only occurs when “water seeks its own level.” Aunt Alice would also say, in order to share true fellowship, “let a smile be your umbrella.” When it’s pouring down trouble, don’t just stand alone in the rain. Find somebody who’s eager to be positive and wants to share a smile. When Elizabeth opened the door to a weary Mary, the the baby in Elizabeth’s belly jumped for joy. She didn’t greet She didn’t greet Mary with a long face saying, “Girl, I know times are rough. I heard about it way up here. You don’t have a husband and nobody believes in your ghost!” She didn’t bemoan Mary’s situation as complicated as it was and she didn’t spread negativity. complicated as it was and she didn’t spread negativity. Instead, Elizabeth saw light where others might see darkness; she celebrated God’s blessings on someone else. And she made Mary smile, even in the rain. Finally, Aunt Alice would say that true fellowship assures us—perhaps without words—that “this too shall pass.” Mary may have headed for the hills with a heavy heart. But once she fell into Elizabeth’s arms, Mary couldn’t help but praise! What joy not to have to apologize or explain! True fellowship accepts you where you are, helps you to see God and reminds you know that “trouble don’t last always.” In fact, what looks like trouble might just be divine favor! As we enter a new year, my prayer is that you’ll enter into fellowship with one another and with me. The time is right to reflect on Aunt Alice and her wisdom, study Luke and his gospel and trust in the love of God. What a fellowship! What a joy divine! Leaning on the Everlasting Arms. -The Everlasting Arms_________________ The Everlasting Arms of Love will accept you … “As you are” To encourage you when you’re feeling down, and lift you up as a star To admonish you when you make mistakes, and are heading off the track To give you words of wisdom that will hopefully bring you back To embrace you when you need a hug, and no one seems to care To let you know undoubtedly, that these loving arms are there So we should not have to worry, facing life and all its harms If we just continue Leaning on the Everlasting Arms *** By Benjamin L. Graham Jan. 12, 2015 DUSTIN Fellowship- A Measure of Depth Although this may sound strange, one of my favorite passages in the Bible is found in (Acts 20:3638). The larger context of the passage is represented in Verses 17-38 where Luke records Apostle Paul’s final farewell to his friends at the church at Ephesus. The reason this is a final farewell to Ephesus is because Paul is well aware that those who have continually opposed his proclamation of the Gospel intend to finish his preaching once and for all. Not unlike their despise for Jesus and the perceived disruption he brought to their lifestyles, the religious leaders equally despised Paul for leading so many to salvation in Christ. Paul knew his upcoming trip to Jerusalem would likely result in death. In turn, he communicates this reality to his friends at Ephesus before his departure. In the final verses we see a very specific and special response that exemplifies the fellowship developed through Christian bonds. The other men, presumably elders including Timothy, reveal the magnitude of their personal grief, and an example of fellowship that we should model today. Verse 36 reveals that the group knelt down and prayed together corporately. The act of praying together is a very foundational aspect to fellowship in Jesus. Too often the modern church reduces the meaning of fellowship to those times when we gather outside of organized services and just chat and eat food. While there is nothing inherently wrong with that, we cannot limit our understanding of fellowship to those terms. There are plenty of secular and worldly gatherings that practice “fellowship” like that. Christian fellowship must necessarily be characterized by another level of interpersonal connectivity that can only happen through a spiritual vehicle. That vehicle is God’s Holy Spirit who directs our lives in ways that bring God glory. That direction, both personally and corporately, originates in prayer and communication with God. We may not be comfortable or willing to break out in prayer amidst a secular Super Bowl party. However, we should be completely comfortable praying with other believers in times of fellowship. The next thing Luke reveals in Verse 37 is the audible weeping, hugging, and kissing of their beloved friend Paul. If you’re like me, you don’t cry for fear of the impression you will give others. The truth is that real tears cannot be withheld when they are rooted in the love of God. These elders likely didn’t care what anyone thought of them as the contents of their hearts overflowed and poured out in the presence of others. How willing are we to develop relationships and transparency with other believers that promote this kind of love for each other? Lastly, we learn in Verse 38 the exact reason for their grieving. Luke says they were especially sad because they wouldn’t see Paul’s face anymore. It was not the event of death that caused grief. They were well aware, like us, that everyone eventually dies a natural death. They also understood the new eternal life each of them (including Paul himself) had received in Christ Jesus. What grieved them most was grounded in the result of genuine Christian fellowship. They were sad that they would not get to fellowship with Paul again on this side of Heaven. For just a couple short verses we get a glimpse into the depth and authenticity of Christian fellowship in a practical time of grief. The Bible is full of fellowship interactivity and innumerable examples. But, do we have relationships in our own lives that resemble Paul and his friends? Do we seek opportunities to develop and cultivate times of fellowship that are genuine and not cursory or shallow? Are there examples of Christians in your life whom you’d greatly miss if they were gone tomorrow and you could no longer fellowship with them? I have a Bible with names of some of my closest Christian friends including my wife that I have handwritten next to this passage. My note simply says at the top “I will always cherish praying and sharing with these friends in Christ”. Do you have a similar list? TOONS TOONS TOONS SO WE DRANK IT ! A LITTLE TRIVIA 1. Where was the ark of the covenant housed before Solomon brought it to the temple? 6. Who invaded Ziklag while David and his men were with the Philistine army? The Philistines The Hebrews Zion Nazareth Gath Jerusalem 1 Kings 8:1 2. How many cities did Solomon award Hiram of Tyre? Five Ten Fifteen Twenty 1 Kings 9:11 3. Where was Ahab buried? Gath Jerusalem Galilee Samaria 1 Kings 22:37 4. What town did Achish give to David and his men? Ziklag Jerusalem Dagon Akkon 1 Kings 22:37 5. Ziklag is in the land of which people? Amalekites Philistines Israelites 1 Samuel 27:7 The Egyptians The Amalekites 1 Samuel 30:1 Antioch Thessalonica Damascus 2 Corinthians Chapter 11 11. What city of Israel was known as the city of the priests? Judah Nob 7. Where did Solomon build the Temple? Kiriath Jearim Gibeon Mount Moriah Mount Gilboa 2 Chronicles 3:1 8. During what year of Solomon's reign was the Temple's construction started? Second Fourth Eighth Twelfth Levitus Keilah 1 Samuel 22:19 12. Where was Solomon anointed king of Israel? Gath Jerusalem Gihon Nazareth 1 Kings Chapter 1 13. After the oppressive and deceitful ways of Samaria, the Lord used what means to get their attention? Twentieth 2 Chronicles 3:2 9. After preaching at Troas, where did Paul go? Earthquake Shout Still small voice Macedonia Rome Corinth Jerusalem Galatia 2 Corinthians 2:13 10. From what city did Paul escape by being let down from a window in a basket? Jerusalem Withheld rain Amos 4:7 14. Bashan was also called what? The land of milk and honey The land of the lost The land of Giants The land that God favored Deuteronomy 3:13 15. What did God use Nebuchadnezzar to do to Jerusalem and Judah? Elisha Samuel Deliver them David Destroy them A chariot 1 Kings 18:46 Exile the people Defend them from Egypt Kill three fifths of the people 1 Chronicles 6:15 16. What special task did Aaron’s descendents perform ? Constructing the temple Being the King's guard Being royal scribes Leading the king's armies Making offerings to God 1 Chronicles 6:9 17. What does Paul, as a spiritual father of the Corinthians, beseech them to do? Be followers of him Send Paul money Pray Eat 1 Corinthians 4:16 18. Elijah ran from Jezebel to which mountain? Mount Hermon Mount Moriah Mount Sinai Mount Horeb 1 Kings 19:8 19. Who did Elijah beat in a foot race? 20. Where was Solomon anointed as king? Jerusalem Beersheba Mt. Horeb Gihon 1 Kings 1:38 24. What was the name of David's first wife? Michal Abigail Bathsheba Mishna 1 Samuel 18:27 25. Who was Israel's firstborn son? Reuben Joseph Benjamin Gog 21. Name the prophet who anointed Solomon king. Saul 1 Chronicles 1:5 Zadok Benaiah Nathan Samuel 1 Kings 1:45 26. How many children did Israel have? 5 7 9 22. Who does Solomon send to kill Adonijah, Joab, and Shimei? Benaiah 12 13 1 Chronicles 2:1 Belial Bath Joshua 1 Kings Chapter 2 23. What did Abigail give David to apologize for her husband's behavior? Money Sheep Food and wine Cattle 1 Samuel 25:18 27. Jabez prayed that the God of Israel would bless him and expand his borders. What did God do? Killed him Made him king Sent armies against him Granted his request Ignored him 1 Chronicles 4:10 “Study to show thyself approved unto God, as a workman that need not to be ashamed,…” Our Wellness Corner You've seen them — kids piping music through their headphones while doing homework … adults listening to the radio while driving … athletes keeping the beat while working out … rock stars jamming out as they perform. Turns out, music is probably helping all of these people in more ways than one. Aside from the joy and beauty it brings into our lives, music has been shown to: 1. Reduce Stress In a study of patients needing surgery, the group who listened to calming music had significantly lower stress levels than those who didn't have music. Music also helped boost their immune systems, making for a smoother recovery time. Another study revealed listening to music triggers stress-reducing chemicals in the brain. 2. Boost Energy Runners, exercise enthusiasts and those who simply work out for fun are often seen wearing headgear listening to their favorite tunes. Many gyms even pipe in motivational music. Just as music can calm or soothe, it can also motivate. Plus, if you're focused on your favorite tunes, you may not notice you exercised for an extra 30 minutes — meaning music can also enhance your endurance. 3. Protect the Heart One study showed listening to music for 30 minutes a day lowered people's blood pressure just as much as cutting back on salt does. Our heart responds to music, just as our emotions do. When we listen to fast, up-beat music, our circulation increases; and when we listen to slow music, our heart rates calm. Plus, after listening to music, our breathing rates are normally lower, which is helpful in protecting against heart disease and stroke. 4. Improve Memory There's no doubt music can make you move — from tapping your foot to the beat to dancing to your favorite song, music can be contagious. So it just makes sense that it gets your brain going, too. Even better, the more active your brain is, the easier it is to remember things. Music can even help people recovering from a stroke or suffering from Alzheimer's disease or dementia. Studies show listening to music helped stroke victims improve their verbal memory and attention. Plus, because people often associate a song with an event in their life, listening to music can help retain memories. 5. Promote Relaxation Music is often used to encourage relaxation. Many people find listening to a soothing CD helps them get their minds off things and ultimately to relax. Similarly, many musicians will tell you how taking time to play the piano or their favorite instrument at the end of a hectic day helps them unwind and relax. One study even showed listening to music, combined with deep breathing, was just as calming as getting a massage. 6. Help With Sleep Have problems sleeping? Music can help. Its calming effect is a natural way to bring on sleep. Studies have shown classical music can raise levels of melatonin, a brain chemical tied to sleep. 7. Ease Pain If you're looking for pain relief, you may want to consider listening to music. Not only is it a proven way to distract yourself (so you focus on the music instead of the pain), but it also stimulates the parts of the brain that cause pleasure. Stimulating these parts of the brain also boosts your mood and helps fight depression. 8. Help You Eat Less When you eat quickly, you don't realize you're full right away, so you keep eating and end up consuming more than you're supposed to. But, if you slow down when you eat, you recognize the signs that you're full. Music can help with this. It's been shown that playing soft music and dimming the lights helps people slow down while eating — so you'll eat less and maybe even lose weight. Add some music to your life and enjoy the health benefits today! Disclaimer: This edition of “Our Wellness Corner” is not written by a licensed health professional. The writer of Our Wellness Corner and anyone affiliated with the “Friends Indeed” Newsletter have no responsibility for any consequences befalling our readers as a result of reading -Our Wellness Corner A Transition House for Reentry A Three-Quarter House to Continue Covenant House Fort Jackson 2709 Agler Road Columbus, OH 43224 3845 Westerville Road Columbus, OH 43224 Covenant House and Fort Jackson are ministry houses affiliated with • Friends Ministry http://www.friendsministry.org/ • Friends Indeed Ministry, Benjamin Graham • House of David, Pastor Brian Hall • Faith Covenant Church in Westerville, Ohio http://faithcov.net/ministries/missions/covenant-house http://faithcov.net/ministries/missions/fort-jackson *** Friends Indeed Ministries, Inc. PO Box 24003 Columbus, OH 43224 “To offer the Hand and Heart of true friendship to those held captive and to the free, and to increase hope and encourage righteous living through the word of God, in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord”
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