build to understand world
take control of life
values
mostly in thoughts
fear
stress
roots
personal
knowledge
preconceptions
problems
anxiety
someone stressed
notice shop
mental maps
summary
delete some info
1st time
been there
not 'why'?
ask thoughtful questions
but: How do you know?
creation
generalization
colleague doesn't greet
or: What if you weren't?
distort information
Subtopic
think of worry future
association
was just busy
recall 5 happy moments
maps become outdated
feeling good
more self control
more willpower
chocolate
'angry with me'
make yourself feel stupid
updating maps
than you
imaginary limitations
imaginary constraints
loud noises
why?
learned fears
born two fears
rest is learned
what
when
why
meta questions
deepen understanding
lever
understanding others
anchoring to control
what makes you think so
how do you know?
alter emotions
very strong
subtle
how
movie example
viewing in theatre
same movie
matching breathing
davidbakker.nl
different feeling
happy ski jumper
ski jumping example
afraid to talk to women
couple excitement
sense based
influence others
emotions are contagious
match communication style
feel
It looks like...
That sounds okay...
I feel great...
two parts
impact on others
yoghurt example
'feel' each other
yoghurt know yoghurt
people know people
pull it
feel better
viewing at home
think
hear
think 5 happy moments
then 1 difficult
question beliefs
other possible interpretations
look
falling
you happy, they happy