Friendship, Intimacy,
and Singlehood
Chapter 9
Chapter
Chapter Overview
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III.
IV.
V.
VI.
VII.
Critical Thinking
Introductory “Quiz”
Thought for the Week
YJU
What is Love?
A Series of Film Clips Depicting “Love”
Consider the Following
I. Critical Thinking
After reading the chapter, write a question about love.
(2 pt. possible)
Due Next Class Period
II. Introductory “Quiz”
1. The best sign of true love is that the
person spends a great deal of time
thinking of his or her beloved.
False
2. Family and friends can know who is
a better match for a person.
True
3. Arranged marriages are a good idea.
Define “good idea.”
4. Falling in love and staying in love are
natural.
False
5. When you’re really in love, you’ll
know it.
False
6. It is easier to fall in love than to stay
in love.
True
7. Being a loving person is the best
way to be loved.
True
8. True love means that you have no
other interests outside the relationship.
False
9. Older people make poor newlyweds because they can’t change.
False
10. When people marry, they always
get more intimate.
False
III. Thought for the Week:
True love is not so much a
matter of romance as it is a
matter of anxious concern for
the well-being of one’s
companion.
IV. YJU
Love is a choice.
V. What is Love?
A. Class Project: Define Love
B. Davis and Todd:
The Fabric of Friendship and
The Tapestry of Love
A. Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory
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Passion Cluster
Caring Cluster
Fascination
Champion/Advocate
Sexual Desire
Giving the Utmost
Exclusiveness
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Enjoyment
Acceptance
Mutual assistance
Trust
Respect
Understanding
Spontaneity
Confiding
V. What is Love?
A. Class Project: Define Love
B. Davis and Todd:
The Fabric of Friendship and
The Tapestry of Love
A. Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory
A. Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory
1. Diagram
2. What is Commitment?
a. Class Discussion
b. A Quotation
Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory of Love
Commitment: a promise of time and energy.
Commitment in strong families means
that the family as a whole is committed to
seeing that each member reaches his or
her potential. It does not mean that the
individuals suffer so that others in the
family can grow.
G. H. Hinkley, 1984
VI. A Series of Film Clips
Depicting “Love”
Place graphic of CD here.
VI. Consider the Following:
A. “Here is a secret that should not be kept;
love is time.” (Dr. Allen Button)
B. In the great literature of all progressive
societies, love is a verb. Reactive people
make it a feeling.
Steven R. Covey
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People