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HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER
From the series Relationships by the Book
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You know as I came in today. I came down with something this week and haven’t felt great. Don’t feel
great now but as I’m coming in I love the greeters. I’m walking in and this greeters there and you know he’s
“good to see ya!” and you know like “oh Yea.” And he goes “God bless you! And your doing great! So glad to
see you!” and you know I’m like “Yeah! There you go” You know we’ve been in this building three years.
Some things that have happened in three years. Its three years this weekend. We’ve had 13 I believe
services and about 16 I mean 17, 16 what 1690 people stood I believe. We’ve had 4 healing services in the 2
years. We’ve had 79,232 people celebrate Christmas and Easter with us in those 3 years. You know we
always ask people to fill out those cards. You ever wonder if anybody really does it? I wouldn’t do that.
There’s 3,000. No I wouldn’t I’m not that kind of a guy. There’s 3,336 new people have come to our church
and filled out one of those in touch cards so we’ve been able to connect with them. We’ve grown we’ve
added two services. A second service Saturday night and Sunday. Three years God’s done a lot, isn’t he? It’s
amazing all that God’s done. [People clapping]
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Well I want to welcome all of you that are here. And all of our video experiences. Pull out your outline if
you would. We are continuing on in our series titled the Ten. And if you’ve been here the last few weeks
you know the most important thing you can know about the 10 commandments. And it is this… the 10
commandments are not a pathway to God. It is not that good looks at it and says, “Wow look at how good
your doing. I’m gonna answer your prayers, and I’m gonna bless you. And I’m gonna give more to you.”
Lots of people when you ask say you know how is it that you connect with God. “Well he gave those 10
commandments. And after all we are bad people. He’s a good God. He can’t be around band people. So we
got to behave our way into heaven. And when we do good and if we behave, do, you know follow those 10.
One day when we stand before God he’ll let us into heaven.” And that is not true. And even the story
illustrates that it’s not true. Because God came and he called his people. He called them and he said, “These
are my people.” And he gave them an opportunity to respond in faith. Simple act, where they would just
put the blood of an animal on the doorpost and then through that God delivered them out of the slavery of
Egypt, delivered them towards the Promised Land. And now after 400 years of living in slavery, as God is
taking them to this new land where they are gonna live as free people for the first time. God gives them
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the 10 commandments. The purpose of the 10 commandments is to teach the people of Israel how to live
in freedom. How to live in the abundance of God’s love. How to live in community, and transform society,
and how to be a light in a world of darkness. What do the 10 commandments have to say to us today? The
exact same thing! For all of us who have believed in Jesus and passed through the blood of Jesus becoming
a Christ follower. We are now in this abundant life and it teaches how to have a relationship with God.
How to live in a land of abundance and good that God has given to us. And how to transform society in the
world in which we live. And so we look at the 10 commandments. And you’re getting them right? You
know the first right? And the first one is? Alright God gets first place in your life right? No other Gods
before him. You know that he wants to be the one and only God in your life. The second command is? No
idols that’s right. Don’t reduce God, Don’t compartmentalize God, Don’t try to customize God and make
him in an image. The third one is? Don’t use the Lords name in vain. Right? And more then just screaming
out God’s name in vain it is the idea of leveraging Gods name using it a way to your own ends. And then
the fourth commandment was? Sabbath day! So excited, so many of you committed for these next few
weeks to have a regular 24 hour period, one in seven days where you rested. Did you do it? Alright! See
you’re happier and better as a result of it! You know what’s fascinating, I got more emails from last weeks
message then I’ve ever gotten. Interesting. And just different questions and different thoughts. And I
thought I’d read just a couple cause they made me laugh out loud some of the them. “My family had a great
conversation on the way home Sunday night after the great explanation of the 4th commandment. You’re
so insightful; no I’ll just skip. [Laughter] After; just kidding; after the four of us declared to be on board
and rest we didn’t realize, you know before we hadn’t realized that God’s Sabbath was a gift of rest to us.
So on Sunday morning you know we woke up without alarm clock. We took our time eating breakfast, we
read, we ignored the household chores, and then after a little while we just stared at each other and didn’t
know what to do.” HAHA and then they go on and they talk about how they figured out how to have a day
of rest. And it’s challenging isn’t it? So you gotta figure it out. I know you’re all busy and some of you
didn’t do so well. Or you think you’re too busy to have a Sabbath day. I thought I’d give you this one to
challenge you. “I am a returning college student at the age of 38, a mother of 4 taking 19 units.” That’s
right. Busy as you are. Alright. “You know every minute counts and even last week I was getting ready to
leave for church and” she said “I grabbed my book bag to study at church incase it was a little boring.” But
she said when she came to church and even as she grabbed her book bag her family said “no mom you leave
that in the car.”
But anyway she said, “You know I stood, I made a promise to give the next 4 weeks to the Sabbath the
respect it deserved. Understanding it was God’s gift to me. So I made this commitment. And we did it as a
family. And I was terrified as Monday came.” And she says “but on Monday I survived, and I realized I was
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a better student, more attentive, and learned more. I’m on bored and I’m making these next 4 weeks.” And
then she went on and talked about the things she’s doing. So good for her. [Clapping] so hope you make it.
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Alright now we are gonna talk about the fifth command. Because in the 5th God changes direction. The law
was given on 2 tablets of stone. The first 4 are on the first tablet and then 5-10 are on the second tablet.
And on the second tablet. The first 4 deal with our relationship with God. How to live in love with God.
Then it turns in how do we live in loving relationship with each other. How to value people. And so when
we go we question as we begging, what are the most important, as you think about building a loving
relationship what are some of the things that are very important to you in building a loving relationship?
That are foundational? What do you love? Trust good. Respect, time, encouragement, good, commitment,
all these things. Well as we look at the fifth commandment God tells us what is the foundation for
ordering your relational world. What is the most important thing that you can do to build healthy
relationships? Are you ready? Cause its gonna be different then you think. Hear the collective groan.
Honor your father and mother! Then you will live a long full life in the land the Lord your God has given
you. Obviously a surprise. Here God says, “You want to know how to order your whole relational world?
You know where to start? Most important thing you can do, honor your father and mother.” He says,
“That’s where it starts. If you don’t have a relationship that works with your mom and dad, every other
relationship is gonna be confused and its gonna be hurtful. You gotta start there.” And this is the first
commandment with a promise. “That you will live a long,” quantity, “full,” quality, “that you will live a long
full life in the land the lord is giving you.” You, we know that your, this relationship with your parents
determines every other relationship. You go in any bookstore today. And you’ll see a huge shelf that just
deals with mother issues, father issues, family of origin issues. It is a relationship that if you don’t get right
will ultimately affect every other relationship in your life. If you’re unable to figure out how to have a
healthy relationship with your parents. And you know you burst out in anger, your driven, become a worka-holic. There’s just confusion in that relationship ultimately it will go out and affect any marriage that
you get involved in, it will affect you as a parent, it will affect you as parents, I mean as a friend. Its gonna
affect every relationship. So God says if you’re gonna deal, you know you’re gonna live as a loving person in
community and ultimately transform society the first place you’ve got to begin is to honor your father and
mother. Now God knows there’s no perfect parents, no perfect homes, and no perfect children. But this is
where it starts. So we are gonna look at what does honor mean, how to live honorably, what does it look
like to live every relationship honorably, and then what is an honorable lifestyle.
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First of all what does honor mean? In the Hebrew the actual Hebrew word Honor means to give weight to,
to give value, to treat with respect, worth and dignity. It doesn’t mean to give weight to somebody, that
you weigh them to see how valuable they are and then treat them accordingly, that’s not the idea. It is to
infuse weight, to give weight, to give value, to treat them as weighty in your life. It doesn’t mean to honor
your father and mother that you have to enjoy going on family vacations with them, doesn’t mean you
have to buy the things that they want, doesn’t mean you have to live the way they want you to live. It
doesn’t mean that. It means that you give them value and that you give them worth and dignity. Now I
know even as we begin to talk about parents some of you begin to tremble inside because you were
dishonored in significant ways by your parents. They weren’t available, they were abusive physically or
emotionally, they were alcoholics. I mean you were dishonored in such a significant way and even as we
talk about there are some of you that just freeze up inside and go “you tell me to put a happy smile on my
life and go ok I’m gonna honor my parents who damaged my life. Does God really want that kind of honor
in my life? Does he want me to be inauthentic? Is that what God is saying? And just smile?” No god does
not ask for that. And I want to talk to you in a second, but not just right now and what does it mean to
honor. But I want to give you the big big picture about what does it mean to honor. And then we will talk
specifically about what does it mean for those of you that have had a very challenging relationship with
your parents; what does honor mean? Because we still, you still, have to find a way to honor your parents.
So what does it mean first off to honor. I think the most profound way to understand honor is through the
movie wizard of oz. Remember the three characters in the movie Wizard of Oz. This movie was made 70
years ago. Alright, the three characters are the lion, the scarecrow, and the tin man. And when the movie
was made it wasn’t seen as a classic, but its lived for 70 years, and there’s lots of things that have spun out,
and the new musical wicked, is kinda a side thing on it. And the whole idea of it is that you understand
honor when you look at it. When it first came out it only had 1 Academy award, do you know what it was
for? Best song, which was? There you go, somewhere over the rainbow. Alright. But the reason it’s a classic,
and it lasted, is because it captures honor. And this is how; the scarecrow in the show does not see himself
as an honorable person. It’s interesting portray him as a person made out of straw. He’s light, he doesn’t
have weight. And the reason that he doesn’t have weight is because he doesn’t have a brain. He doesn’t
think that he’s smart. Now when we watch the movie and the show we realize that he’s smart, because in
every situation and in every challenging difficulty who figures out what to do? The scarecrow does. He
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solves every problem. But he doesn’t think that he’s weighty, he doesn’t think that he has value, and the
whole time we are going “You are valuable.” And that’s why at the end of the movie we love it when the
wizard comes and says, “you are smart. And there are lots of people and universities that know, and are
smarter then you are. But they have one thing that you don’t have and that is a diploma. And so I’m gonna
give you the doctorate of thinkology.” And all the sudden the scarecrow, and we love that he’s blessed, and
he goes, you know, he goes “these things, isosceles triangle are congruent on both sides and opposite
angles are equal.” And you know he thinks he’s smart. But we love it because we realize he’s been honored.
He’s been given weight. This character who seems himself as light gets value.
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And then the tin man thinks he’s not valuable because you know he’s made up of tin its hard and harsh.
And when you bang on him he’s hallow. And he doesn’t see himself as valuable because he doesn’t have a
heart. But we know he has a heart because who’s the first guy to hug Dorothy and cry at every emotional
moment? And he has has to carry an oil can around with him because he’s always rusting and he’s gotta
you know lubricate himself cause he’s there. And he’s going “But I don’t have a heart.” And that’s why we
love it when he stands before the wizard and he says “There’s lots of people that are no more loving then
you are and they are called philanthrapodic or philantra” and he can’t say philanthropists and he says
“they are do gooders. But they have one thing that you don’t have and that’s a testimonial.” And so he
gives him a testimonial in the shape of a heart. And all of the sudden the scarecrow feels valuable because
he realized I am an emotional person, I have a heart! And then of course the lion. Who feels like he doesn’t
have any worth because he doesn’t have courage? He doesn’t have courage and so he thinks that he’s not
valuable but we know. Of all of the characters in the story we love the lion because even though he
trembles and he shakes in every challenging moment what does he do? He does the think that is most
courageous. He faces his fear and he charges into it and we love it when the wizard goes to him and says,
“there’s lots of people that are no more courageous then you are but there is one thing that they have that
you don’t have and that is a medal.” And we love the show because when you look at it we see ourselves in
that show. All of us live with the sense of I am not smart enough, I am so afraid that I am gonna be liked
my whole life. And I can’t figure it out because there are other people smarter then me. Or there’s people
who care more and they’re more loving then me, or there’s people that are more courageous then me. All of
us look at all those different characters or parts and say, “if only I could be courageous, or smart. If I could
be loving. If somebody would honor me. If they give me weight, if they would treat me with value, if they
would treat me with respect.” And that’s the idea of biblical honor. To infuse value, to give worth, it is
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choosing to make someone weighty in your life. And so when you say your gonna honor your father and
mother it means you’re gonna make a choice. It doesn’t mean that they are just honorable and you respond
to it. It means that you choose to make them significant and give them weight. It is a decision that you
make.
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Now what does it look like? We are gonna look at the three phases of life. Because many people mistakenly
look at the fifth commandment by 18 you’re done with that. You’re out and it’s done and that’s not what
the bible says. So let’s quickly look at what it means. To children it means obey, alright. Children obey your
parents because you belong to the lord for this is the right thing to do. Every child is born into this world a
little rebel. Totally, wants to stare down and scream at authority. And the first authority that a child deals
with is their parents. And if they don’t learn how to respond to parent’s authority, then they won’t learn
how to respond to police authority, to government authority, to an employee’s authority, and it won’t get
well with them in the land. They will not have a long full life in the land. And ultimately they will never
learn to respond to God’s authority. So the first lesson. What does it mean as a child? It means they gotta
obey and respect their parent’s authority. And we understand that. To youth what does it mean? To youth
it means that you got to respect and cooperate. Look at “listen to your father who gave you life and do not
despise your mother when she is old.”
Children as they grow up and when they move into their teenage years and early adult it is natural for
them to want to differentiate themselves from their parents. They want to separate themselves; they want
to become their own person. And every parent wants their child to do that. They want their child to make
healthy decisions. They don’t want to control them they want to help them grow. And in that very
challenging time, as a young person, as a beginning, you know to become different from their parents and
make their own choices. The most dangerous thing they can do is to isolate, and not cooperate, and not
respect their parents. Remember if you’re in those years, you’re a person in there youth years it is the only
time in your life that you have the answer to every problem. And its ok that you have that, it’s just the only
time. And you know its the only time that you don’t trust teachers, you don’t trust parents, you don’t trust
pastors, and the most dangerous thing you can do is just isolate and be around your own age group and
make decisions. It’s important that you stay connected. And that’s why we built the youth center. We want
you to connect with volunteers, and pastors, and leaders who will talk through issues of life. Respect and
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cooperate and to stay connected in family love during those very challenging years as you grow up. That’s
what it means to honor your father and mother.
And then the last group. That is actually where most of you are. When you become an adult, what does it
mean to honor. Those uh; to adults honor means to treasure. Alright. As you become an adult as you
become you own person you grow up to treasure. It says “the first responsibility is to show godliness at
home and to repay their parents by taking care of them this is something that pleases the lord.” Here he
talks about care for and repay. And so it doesn’t stop when all of the sudden you know you move out of
your parents house. God expects all of us to value, to treasure, to treat with respect our parents. And
there’s kinda this moment of truth when you move out you know and then you get your own home going
and you maybe get married and maybe have children and you realize the sacrifice and commitment it takes
to raise kids and all of the sudden you realize this is what my parents did for me. And we live in a world
today that does not honor age. And so age is constantly being discarded and the older you get the more
discarded you are. And time will take care of age and you will get old. And so as your parents get old, your
teaching children how to honor parents and so as you honor your parents and you take care of them in
their old age. And its difficult cause you still have to value you children and as they get older they have
certain needs and as parents as they get old. Gee do they become like children or what. My parents they’re
in the next service so I won’t be able to say that to them. But you know my dad tells me the same stories
and I look at him and I sit and I smile and I think “really this is how you want to spend the time, saying the
same joke that I have heard 8 trillion times. You know. Ok that’s what you want to do. Oh yeah so cleaver.”
And they do become more childlike. But you know what spending more time with them; and you know
there are times when my dad and my mom its hard for them to be around my kids and I gotta say hey its
not all going your way. And I got to tell my kids hey its not all your going your way either. We are gonna
figure out how to do this together. Cause we are gonna treasure them and we are gonna value you. And so
its part of life but you can’t just walk away from them. God is clear on that amazing thing.
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And then let’s talk about, those are the three phases of life, but for those of you who’ve been hurt; what
does it say? It means that you gotta respond in grace and truth. Jesus is always our example. Look at this
verse “we have seen his glory.” What’s the glory? The one and only uh the only and only who came form
the father. He was full of grace and truth. What does Jesus expect from you? That you respond in truth
and grace to your parents. Now some of you, you’re trembling inside, because as you look at your parents,
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and they hurt you and dishonored you. Now I’m not talking to those of you whose parents kinda tick you
off and kinda irritate you. I’m talking about people who really were significantly dishonored by your
parents. And as you think about that you go “what am I gonna do?” I mean your whole being just says, “I
am done with them, they created so much hurt for me it just has to be over. Firs thing that God asks is
that you’ve got to deal with the truth. You gotta be honest with what happened, and some of you just want
to turn from it and you think it doesn’t affect your life but it drives everything you do. You’re a work-aholic, your performance driven, you rage on people, you don’t know why there’s this turning inside
because you’ve never admitted the truth or you just can’t face the truth about how your parents so
dishonored you in such a catastrophic way. And you do, you have to tell the truth. And sometimes it takes
going to a counselor. We have lots of things in our church, we have spiritual growth groups, we have
recover groups, and care groups that basically that are there to deal with the damage and wreckage that
people went. And the most important thing that you’ve got to believe is that as ugly as sin is God’s love
and grace is greater. And as painful as it is, you gotta say “God I believe that even as I face this that your
love can overpower this pain. That your near the broken hearted and that your close to the crushed in
spirit. That you’re father to the fatherless and I will believe that you can heal these wounds. I will
courageously face it and admit the truth of what happened. But then you got to bring grace to it. You just
can’t live ticked your whole life. Angry, resentful, and bitter for what happened to you. There’s got to be a
measure of grace. There are reasons that your parents did it. And you gonna have to kinda look at those
because you’re gonna have to look at those because you’re gonna have to give them grace to give yourself
some grace. And God has given you grace. And you got to work through it. And admit it and where its
possible your gonna have to talk the truth with them and sometimes they’ve already died or they’re not
open to talking to you and you’re gonna have to be able to talk to other people about it. But at the end of
the road you’re gonna have to find a way to forgive your parents for what they did. And I know for some of
you, you go “you have no idea what it would mean to forgive my parents.” I don’t but God does, and God
has forgiven you and his grace will get you to the place where you really can. I have heard so many
beautiful stories of things that have happened to people that are so staggering and painful and yet they
have found a way to forgive and move on. Now that doesn’t mean they do family vacations together and
they don’t necessarily celebrate Christmas, and they don’t, I mean there’s lots of things that don’t come
back. But they have found a way to forgive their parents and then honor them. Honor them as the parents
God gave them. Honor them that they were people that were broken and that in their brokenness while
they did terrible things that they, that at least God had given them for a reason. And you are in many ways
wonderful because of the things that they gave you. It wasn’t all bad. And you got to find a way and in that
that beauty will emerge because if you don’t that pain that is in you in your life will really effect your
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marriage, your kids, and workplace. You’ve got to begin your relational world by honoring your father and
mother.
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Key things in honoring your parents. Just some biblical thoughts at the bottom of your outline there. You
have what does honor mean. It means that you accept and appreciate. Therefore accept each other and
that is a part with your parents. You’ve got to accept them, who they are, appreciate them for who they
are. Affirm them don’t withhold good from those who deserve it. And your parents deserve to be affirmed
for certain things I their lives. It’s not for everything. But for things that are truthful you can find ways to
affirm them. Some of you are going to have to be incredibly creative. But God gave you the ability to be
that creative. And then third take care of them. This is a surprise. Your first responsibility is to show
godliness at home and to repay your parents by taking care of them. But those who won’t care for their
own relatives especially those in their own household have denied the true faith. Such people are worse
then unbelievers. That is the bible and that is God’s word to you. It doesn’t mean they have to live at home
with you but it does mean that in their old years you’ve got to take care of them, and value them, and
treasure them.
Now the thing that I want you to see in addition to your parents is the reason that you honor your father
and mother is because ultimately that honor moves out then to every other relationship. And I want to
quickly. I want to show you these next but I don’t have to really go into deeply. But the reason for looking
at it, as you start to, when you begin the primary relationship to honor your father and mother it moves
out. And the bible applies honor in every other relationship. Husbands and wives, the most important
thing in a marriage is to honor each other. Honor, to a husband, means to love and respect a wife. This
means for husbands, love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave his life for her. And so again I say
each man must love. The husband’s responsibility I say again is to… (Honor)… with a lot more
excitement… Husbands your responsibility is to? (Honor) there you go! And what does it mean for the
wife? He must love his wife and wives as he loves himself, and the wife must? (Respect) there you go!
Respect her husband. And so what does honor look like in a marriage. It means husbands you are to love
your wives as Christ loved the church. So you know he gave up his position for us and he humbly came and
became a servant. And it doesn’t mean that your wimpy and that your like “oh gee anything you want.”
Cause Jesus surly wasn’t wimpy and Jesus doesn’t give me everything that I want. But he loves me in the
most profound ways and he did what was best for me. As a husband that’s what I’m called to do for my
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wife. And wives are called to respect their husbands. And respect is the number 1 need of a husband. And I
love it because Lori she gives me the gift of respect. She affirms me, she encourages me, she says I love
your leadership, I love your passion, I love how you’re a growing person, and I love, and she, and I love that
she respect me. And I am so sad for guys, and when I’m around a guy, and you can see his wife doesn’t
respect him. Doesn’t doesn’t affirm, doesn’t encourage, doesn’t tithe. And you realize as he moves out into
the world, the world becomes such a dangerous place. because there are many woman tat want to respect
that guy. And it becomes very confusing for him and so wives are called to respect. But its honor. It’s
giving the gift of honor.
So we learn that honor is the building block for every relationship. Dads and moms, Dads and moms honor
means? How do you honor your kids? Dads do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat
them rather bring them up with discipline and instruction that comes form the lord. Don’t provoke your
kids and create healthy boundaries for your kids. So as they growing up, so moms what is that you do for
your kids that are most important? You provide security and you teach them how to attach. You teach
them how to attach and build relationships. Dad’s what is it that you teach your kids? You introduce them
to the world. Go out there and play with sticks. Yeah they are dangerous you might loose and eye but go
ahead! Right. It’s that, you know you really do introduce them to the world. And what do dad’s teach,
where do boys get their masculinity form their? (Fathers) and where do little girls get their femininity?
From their? Fathers! Girls learn their femininity from their fathers. And they learn their masculinity from
their fathers. Dads, while its threatening and heard cause mom do such a good job at the nurture and
attachment. And they’re pretty sure that we should teach that to our kids to it is not what they need, and
moms do not know how to be dads, and dads you get in there and do what you’re suppose to do. You teach
them you introduce them to the world. You introduce them to the world you say get out there and be
dangerous. And the moms are going “no no no”. And you’re going “ it will be fine!” and then the second
thing is that you honor them. And a dad does not encourage the masculinity in a son, the femininity in a
daughter, she will not get it from her mom, she can not get it from her mom, and so it has to come from
that way. And so you honor them in that way.
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And employee in fact we should read this let’s fill God’s house with God’s word cause you love this one.
Employees what does it mean to honor your employer? Let’s read it together. “Slaves” does that feel
truthful right? Just say it “Slaves obey your earthly master with deep respect and fear. Serve them with
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sincerity as you would serve Christ. Not just when they are watching you. Work with enthusiasm as though
you were working for the lord rather then people.” I mean employees honor means respectful service. And
then employers. Masters treat you, its respect. “Treat your slaves the same way. Treat them. Remember
them, both of you have the same master in heaven and he plays no favorites.” And then read this with me
Revel uh Romans 12 “Love each other with genuine affection, and honoring each other” and say.. And
take? Take what? Honoring each other!
He says you lifestyle, your lifestyle, all relationships are built on honor. It starts with your family in your
home. It starts with your mom and dad. And as you learn what it means to honor them you give them
weight and respect. Then you move out and into the world and you can give them weight, respect, and
treat them with value. And then when you meet somebody and want to marry you can treat them with
weight and respect. You make the choice to make somebody weight. Your not look at them evaluating how
valuable they are say you are value, you infuse worth and value into them. And you pass it on to your kids;
you’re able to take it to the workforce. And God says “ you know the most transformational thing that’s
gonna happen in your life is? Is when you move into the world and you are able to give others the gift of
honor.” Do you know the most devastating thing in a person’s life? Dishonor. When you can take away
weight and value and respect and tear them down. You’re not smart you’re stupid. You’re not courageous
you’re weak. You got no heart. You begin to disrespect somebody, you destroy them at the core, you
destroy the image of God. The greatest lie that you will hear in society is that respect must be earned. It is
not true. That’s not even the definition of the word. Respect is to give value and to give honor. It is a
choice that you make. It is a gift that you give. Biblically speaking it is to treat somebody as weighty. And it
is in your hands. How can I treat people that are not weighty and valuable as value? Because God did it to
you. He made you as a significant and valuable worthwhile person in the image of God. But you did not act
respectable; you sold your self cheap to sin and became disrespectable. But god didn’t treat you with a lack
of respect he kept giving you worth. He made you valuable. So much so that he sent his son and Jesus
willingly came to die on the cross for you, you’re that valuable. You have that much worth. He died in your
place for your sin, so that you could have a relationship with God, so that you could be free, so that you
could be forgiven. And he gave you a choice. He gave you the ability that you could treat him; you could
treat God with disrespect. You can treat God dishonorably. You can say I don’t value your gift. I don’t value
your love I will treat you as a, as a God without weight. God gave you that much respect. But for everyone
who embraces the love of God and the death of Jesus Christ for our sin God infuses us the righteousness
of Christ he gives us life and honor. He blesses us everyday. He gives you the Holy sprit that bible tells us
everyday whispers to our heart “you are Gods love child. You are great. You are smart. You are courageous.
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You have a heart. You are passionate and emotional. And I’ve gifted you to do great things. You can make a
difference in this world. You can transform society. And you can give the greatest gift to any person in this
world. You can give them the gift of honor. You can choose to make somebody in your life weighty.”
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Let’s stand together. Father we are so grateful that you love us and you have made us valuable. And we
know that it isn’t us it is you. You have infused into us such powerful worth, dignity, and you have given to
us these great privilege to us to move in and to transform every relationship and every workplace and
every community with your love. We can bring the gift of honor. But it must start with the 5th command.
We must be people who honor our father and mother. Because if we do we live a long life and a full life it
will go well with us in the land. So God give us the courage to be people who follow us in Jesus name.
Amen
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