BUCKET FILLING 101: THE BASICS OF BUCKET FILLING
Personal Benefits
Levels of Bucket Filling
1.
FULLER Bucket, HAPPIER Life
2.
Improves your RELATIONSHIPS
a.
Fill YOUR OWN BUCKET
3.
Higher EMOTIONAL Intelligence
b.
Fill OTHER PEOPLE'S
4.
Able to set BOUNDARIES
5.
You MAKE A Difference
1.
2.
DAILY
SPECIAL ACTS OF KINDNESS
a.
For people you DON'T KNOW
b.
For people you KNOW
1) GROUP - to - one
2) ONE - to - one
Group Benefits
1.
No additional WORK
2.
Not Complicated; SIMPLE
FORGIVENESS and KINDNESS
3.
Not Abstract; CONCRETE
when others are unkind
4.
Not Reactive; PROACTIVE
5.
Not Negative; POSITIVE FOCUS
6.
BUILDS Connections
1.
REACTIVE
7.
CREATES Self-worth
2.
LONG-HANDLED
8.
Ready to LEARN
3.
SELECTIVE/GROUP
9.
Teaches KINDNESS
3.
ADVANCED
Common Types of Bucket Dipping
10. Learn SELF-CONTROL
Process to "Use Your Lid"
11. Develop RESILIENCE
1.
RECOGNIZE YOUR EMOTIONS
12. It's FUN !
2.
STOP-THINK-UNDERSTAND
13. It WORKS !
3.
CONSIDER THE OPTIONS
Note: A lid does not work for serious life events.
Rules for a Happier Life (Fuller Bucket)
1.
Be a BUCKET FILLER
Whose bucket is the most important to
keep filled? YOUR OWN
a. FILL YOUR OWN b. FILL OTHERS
2.
3.
Do your best not to DIP
Emotional Intelligence
a. INTO YOUR OWN b. OTHERS
Your LEARNED ability to RECOGNIZE and
Learn to USE YOUR LID
UNDERSTAND emotions in yourself and
a. FOR YOURSELF
others to better MANAGE your behavior
b. AND OTHERS
Rule 1 is an act of intention. Rules 2 & 3 require the
development of emotional intelligence.
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and relationships.
TWELVE STEPS TO CREATE YOUR BUCKETFILLING SCHOOL
Step 1: Introduce the Concept to Staff. Get Buy-in. Make a Group Decision.
Step 2: Introduce the Concept to Students (classroom or assembly)
Step 3: Pledge. Commit. Repeat pledge. Remember: it’s not a fad, it’s a lifestyle!
Step 4: Introduce the Concept to Parents (assembly, newsletters, events).
Step 5: Make a School-wide Statement (bulletin boards, announcements, website, etc.).
Step 6: Distribute Buckets to Staff (classroom and other staff).
Step 7: Teach the Three Rules (Be a Bucket Filler, Don't Dip, Use Your Lid).
Step 8. Use the Language and Model It:
a. Focus on the positive: You filled my bucket when you _______. I like the way you used your lid
and responded in that situation.
b. Give immediate feedback: It dips in my bucket when you _______. I’d like you to ________.
c. Help children self-reflect: Are you filling my bucket or dipping into it?
d. Use the language daily and at staff meetings.
e. Fill the buckets of those who need it the most.
f. Fill each student’s bucket in a class go-around.
g. Try to fill one parent’s bucket each week.
h. Fill co-workers’ buckets; staff buckets are important, too.
i. Welcome new students and staff with a welcoming bucket.
j. Use support buckets to help staff and students going through difficult situations.
Step 9. Practice and Remind. Keep Practicing & Reminding. Be Community-Minded.
Step 10. Recognize Individuals, Groups, Classrooms, and the Entire School
Step 11. Offer a Form to Report Dipping
Step 12. Have Fun! (Hold a school-wide event, friendly competition, performance, etc.)
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ONE-TO-ONE BUCKETFILLING EXERCISE
Think of all the special people you love, value and respect. This list could include family
members, close friends and neighbors, co-workers, or others. Perhaps it is someone you
haven't seen or talked with in quite a while.
Write the names of the first six individuals who come to mind here:
_____________________________________ _______________________________________
_____________________________________ _______________________________________
_____________________________________ _______________________________________
Choose one of these individuals as the person whose bucket you want to fill. Write a minimum
of ten reasons why they mean, or have meant, so much to you.
Instructions:
1. On a separate sheet of paper, write this person a letter listing several sincere, specific
reasons why you respect and value them and are thankful that they are in your life.
2. Include the date and their name at the top of your note.
3. Think of the wonderful, important, even humorous times you have shared or the
heartfelt, thoughtful things this person has done, or is still doing, for you. Include the
main reasons you respect this person.
4. List a minimum of ten sincere reasons but try for 20, 30, or more. The more you
include, the more you will fill this person's bucket.
5. Now you have a choice: Decide how you will deliver your bucketfilling note. You can
read it privately or in the presence of family or friends. You can mail it along with a
relevant photo from the past, a drawing, card, or even send flowers.
Not only will your bucketfilling list show your gratitude, it will also express your love, respect
and admiration. Your thoughtfully written, bucketfilling letter is one of the best gifts you will
ever give. When you focus only on qualities you honestly admire in a person, you can build a
healthier relationship or perhaps repair a damaged relationship.
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