Harriet the Hurricane Written By Melody Ott, LCSW Harriet's mom sometimes called her a hurricane. She loved to run and dance and jump and skip. She loved to play with her toys all over the house. Sometimes, she made a mess, and her mom told her to clean it up. Harriet was a whirlwind. But the day her family had to leave their home because of a real hurricane, Harriet's life felt like a hurricane. Her family was hurrying and packing the cars. They boarded up the house and loaded up their pets. It all happened fast, and Harriet felt scared. Her mom told her they would be okay. Her dad told her that it would be fine. Harriet wasn't so sure. She wondered what a hurricane was. She wondered why they had to leave. Harriet wondered if she would ever see the sparkly pink ballerina poster in her room again. Harriet felt frightened. On the car ride to Grandpa's house, her mom and dad talked about the storm. They talked about what would happen if they lost everything. Harriet didn't know what that meant, but she knew it wasn't good. She didn't like this storm. She decided that this storm was the worst! When they arrived at Grandpa's, things didn't feel like they usually did on a visit. Usually, everyone played and had fun. This time, Dad watched the news. Mom wasn't so snuggly. Harriet felt alone. Something was really wrong. Harriet didn't know what this hurricane was all about but she didn't like it at all! Harriet felt like crying. She wanted to sleep with Mom and Dad. She didn't want to eat. Harriet felt cranky. Yes, this storm was the worst. A few days went by at Grandpa's. Mom tried to play and go to the park, but she kept checking her phone for news about their house. Dad watched the weather station on TV a lot and talked to Grandpa about the storm. Then mom said it was time to go home. Mom said she didn't know what we would find at our house when we got home. Harriet still felt scared. She still felt afraid. She wanted to go home, but what if it was gone or ruined? What if her toys were gone? What if her sparkly ballerina poster was blown away? This storm was just the worst! On the drive home, Mom and Dad talked about insurance, whatever that was. They talked about cleaning up. They talked about moving to a new house. Harriet didn't want to move. She loved her purple bedroom with the pink curtains. She loved her big snuggly bed. She hated this hurricane. It was definitely the worst ever! When they got home, there was water everywhere. Mom said the ocean came inside of the house. It smelled yucky. Everything was wet, including Harriet's sparkly pink ballerina poster. Harriet felt like crying, but she didn't. She kept it all inside. It felt like an elephant was sitting on her chest. She felt angry and didn’t understand why this was happening to her. She loved her pink ballerina poster. She loved her toys. They were gone forever and she felt like nothing was going to be right, ever again. Mom and Dad started cleaning up. They told Harriet to play outside. They said it wasn't safe in their house. Harriet saw her neighbor, Freddy, outside too. He said their house got a tree inside. He said it fell right on the roof and landed in his room. He said he had to leave his house for a while. He told Harriet that it would be okay because they would get to come back when things were fixed back up. He said he could pick a new color for his room and that he was going to pick bright green! Freddy seemed okay, and Harriet felt confused. This storm was the worst, but why did Freddy seem okay? Freddy said that sometimes hurricanes come. They are really big, bad storms. Moms and dads worry because they want kids and pets to be safe. That is why they pack up and evacuate, that is a big word for leave and go someplace safe away from the storm. Freddy said that his family went to a school, and there were lots of other families there too. They camped out in the cafeteria and played games inside. He said he felt scared, but that was normal. He said that when he feels scared he talks to his dad. He said he likes to draw pictures to get the scared out and that sometimes he just snuggles his favorite stuffed animal, Jake, the cat. Freddy said it is okay to be frightened or confused or scared. But he said you can't hold it in or it makes you feel really yucky inside. Harriet felt better after she talked to Freddy. She went to her house and found her mom. She asked her for a hug. Mom scooped her up and gave her a giant hug. It felt great. Mom told Harriet that they would be busy for a few days cleaning up their house. Mom told her that they would have to move to a new house for a while. Mom said everything was a mess and that they would have to throw out Harriet's toys. Harriet cried. She let the tears fall out just like Freddy said to do. She didn't keep it inside this time. This hurricane was the pits, it was awful, it was really the worst! Mom said they would all be okay. She said things would be different for a little while. She said they would get to come back home someday, but, for now, they needed to leave. Soon Harriet went back to school. She got used to her new, temporary room. Temporary is a big word for the house that her family would live in until their home was safe again. It wasn’t her forever home, and Harriet couldn’t wait until her house was safe to live in again. She went back to dance class. Life started to feel normal again, but Harriet would never forget that storm. She was positive that it was the worst. The good news was that Harriet the Hurricane was back in full force, and she loved to play and sing and dance! Freddy's advice to Harriet: Don't let your feelings stay inside. Storms are scary. Talk to someone you care about, and share how you feel. Sometimes it is hard to talk about it, but you can draw a picture or write a story. Sometimes you just need to be alone. That is okay too. You can snuggle with a favorite toy or just be still and quiet. Questions from kids like Harriet (these may be questions your children have): Why do grown-ups get so worried when a hurricane is coming? Why is it important to evacuate? What happens to a house when it floods or has a tree fall on the roof? Will a hurricane happen again? Where did the hurricane go? Did the hurricane destroy other places I love, like the park? What happened to all of the other people who had to evacuate? Will my life be different after this? Will I remember this forever? Advice to Parents: During a storm, a child's routine, everything they know, what they hear you talking about, is changed. This can not only disrupt sleep schedules, school schedules, and life in general, but it can cause a tremendous emotional impact on a child. Many families are forced to evacuate and, upon their return, they find their homes destroyed or damaged. Moving forward is difficult for parents, and we often get caught up in dealing with the loss. There is added paperwork, added clean up, and, like our children, our lives get turned upside down. Some families find themselves displaced or without a home, some families find themselves living in part of their damaged home, some families have to move. The struggle after a hurricane can be devastating for everyone. It is an emotional and sometimes physical upheaval. Parents need to be sure to take care of themselves first. When flying on an airplane, the flight attendant reminds you to place your air mask on before you place your child's air mask on. This situation is no different. Get sleep, eat well, and take care of yourself. If you find yourself facing overwhelming feelings of any kind, talk to someone you trust, exercise, get emotional support from a friend or a therapist. This can be a traumatic experience, and it is not something to minimize. When you take care of yourself, you are better able to take care of your child. Take time to talk with them. Ask them questions about how they felt during the storm. Talk to them honestly about the situation and what it means for your family moving forward. Work with them to find some of the positive things in the situation. Hug them more often, and understand that they may be more clingy during this time. Remember that children heal through play. Play with your children and allow them to lead the theme of the play. Work to get them back into their routine as quickly as you are able. If your child continues to seem disconnected, agitated, or upset, ask for help from their school or from a counselor. Let your child's teacher know what is going on. If your family has lost a pet or a loved one, reach out and get professional support. Loss of any kind is very difficult, but loss during a storm has an added layer of sadness, hurt, and difficulty. If your family is dealing with the aftermath of a hurricane, don’t resist support from friends and family. They want to help, so let them! There are many resources available. Below are just a few. This is a resource from Hurricane Sandy. It has some very good information for families and children: http://www.nj.gov/dcf/home/Resources_TalkingToKidsAboutHurricane .pdf The following is a resource page from the National Child Traumatic Stress Network: http://www.nctsn.org/trauma-types/natural-disasters/hurricanes This article from the American Psychological Association gives support to parents seeking to help their children heal during the trauma of a natural disaster: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/tornadoes-kids.aspx
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