Recovery Starts with Knowledge 13 IITAP03. International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals Contact Us: (866) 575-6853 • P.O. Box 2112 • Carefree, AZ 85377 • Email: [email protected] • www.iitap.com Making Advances Treating Female Sex & Love Addicts Finally, a new focus is now targeting the experience of females regarding addictive sexual and relational behaviors. Beginning with a gathering of female clinicians from IITAP and SASH who met to brainstorm about women and sexual addiction, the group eventually developed the Women’s Sexuality Survey, which gathered responses from almost 500 women. READ MORE... Coming Events Module 1 Training April 17–21, Scarborough, Ontario, CANADA http://www.iitap.com/events/sex-addiction-workshops/98-csat-module-1-training Module 1 Training May 29-June 2, Santa Fe, NM http://www.iitap.com/events/sex-addiction-workshops/98-csat-module-1-training Module 1 Training Sept 30 - Oct 4, Voorthuizen, Netherlands http://www.iitap.com/events/sex-addiction-workshops/98-csat-module-1-training/ 177-930-104-2013 Module 2 Training June 26-30, Searcy, AR http://www.iitap.com/events/sex-addiction-workshops/99-csat-module-2-training Module 3 Training April 10-14, Hasbrouck, NJ http://www.iitap.com/events/sex-addiction-workshops/100-csat-module-3-training Module 3 Training June 19-23, Bellevue, WA http://www.iitap.com/events/sex-addiction-workshops/100-csat-module-3-training Module 4 Training in Dickson, TN (TBA) Spring into the Gentle Path Press Bookstore Sale with Free Shipping Inside this issue • From My Desk - Tami VerHelst, Vice President • From the Gentle Path Press Editor’s Desk • The SDI 4.0 Has Arrived! • 8th Annual IITAP Symposium Making Advances - Treating Female Sex & Love Addicts by Marnie C. Ferree, MA, LMFT, CSAT The field of sex addiction treatment is ever evolving. Those evolutions have followed a predictable path beginning with a suspicion that there was some addictive malady at work in problematic sexual and relationship behavior. As a result, we gained a better understanding about the struggle and its processes. We then attempted to define and name the struggle which eventually led to determining effective treatment approaches. These developments in sex addiction treatment, though, have had a decidedly masculine face. Similar to the advancement in understanding alcoholism, the focus in our field has been on male sex addicts. The prevailing perspective, certainly among the general public and sadly, among many in our own field, has been that women rarely struggle with sexual addiction. Finally, a new focus is now targeting the experience of females regarding addictive sexual and relational behaviors. Beginning with a gathering of female clinicians from IITAP and SASH who met to brainstorm about women and sexual addiction, the group eventually developed the Women’s Sexuality Survey, which gathered responses from almost 500 women. The responses were about evenly divided between those who self-identified as sex addicts/ sex and love addicts and those who identified as non-addicts. The survey clearly illuminated the impact of sex and love addiction on the addict group. Results have been published in peer review journals. The Women’s Summit Group also explored the differences, if any, between female sex and love addicts and their male counterparts. Interestingly, we found few significant distinctions between the presentation of sex and love addiction in women as compared to men. Women are increasingly more active in Internet sexual behaviors and other forms traditionally viewed as male types of acting out. Women are no longer “just” the so-called love or relationship addicts, which was the prevailing presentation when I first began treating women in the mid-1990s. The Women’s Summit Group chose to use the name “sex and love addicts” to include the various forms of women’s experience. We believe the dynamics of these presentations are quite similar. Asking the right questions is key to identifying sex and love addiction in women. Females will often deny having “anonymous sex,” for example. However, if you ask a woman if she has ever had sex with someone she just met in a bar, she’s much more likely to admit that behavior. Diagnostically, the SDI and the Women’s Sexual Addiction Screen Test are both helpful tools, along with taking a thorough sexual and relationship history. Treating female sex and love addicts (FSLAs), however, is quite different from treating male sex addicts. Women need a more relational and slower approach, and the clinician must take extra care regarding the therapeutic container. A clinician’s setting, energy, wardrobe, touch, and environment require special consideration. Transference, countertransference and enactments must be handled with skill and empathy. The timing of using the thirty recovery tasks is important, as many FLSAs feel dismissed or misunderstood if the tasks are introduced prematurely or in the absence of a well-established therapeutic relationship. Women face significant challenges in their healing process that men are spared. The shame of struggling with sex and love addiction is still greater in most cultures than the shame associated with the same addiction in men. Finding support within a Twelve Step community is also challenging. That’s because fewer women seek treatment for sex and love addiction (which is a pattern also evident in recovery from chemical dependency) and therefore few women are present at most recovery meetings. It’s not unusual for a woman to be the only person of her gender in a room of men at an S meeting, and that environment can be difficult. FSLAs also find it hard to develop authentic relationships with other women, which is crucial for addressing their impaired attachment patterns. Most FSLAs have a deep distrust and dislike for continued next page Making Advances - Treating Female Sex & Love Addicts - continued other women, and the dynamics among women are challenging. This double bind - women both need and have difficulty relating to other women - makes a gender specific therapy group and treatment setting especially helpful, especially early in an FSLA’s process. Understanding an FSLA’s experience and the nuances of her unique treatment needs allows a clinician to better assist her in arresting her addictive behaviors and developing into a woman of grace and integrity. An excellent new resource outlines this process: Making Advances - A Comprehensive Guide for Treating Female Sex and Love Addicts. This book was written by a group of experienced female clinicians and edited by Marnie Ferree. Marnie C. Ferree, MA, LMFT, CSAT is founder of Bethesda Workshops and is a frequent lecturer at professional and recovery conferences, churches, and schools. She also consults with Christian organizations and churches about sexual integrity, especially in cases where a leader has fallen into sexual sin. Her book about female sexual addiction, No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction, (Intervarsity Press) is the first Christian book on the subject by a woman personally in recovery. She recently edited Making Advances – A Comprehensive Guide for Treating Female Sex and Love Addicts, which is the first book to address this population. Making Advances http://www.sash.net/makingadvances was written by 10 female leaders in the clinical community and Ms. Ferree shaped the volume and edited the entire project. from my Desk Tami VerHelst, Vice President Let me begin with a THANK YOU to all of you who attended the 8th Annual IITAP Symposium! Thank you to the presenters who did an amazing job of making the content relevant and valuable. Thank you to the sponsors and exhibitors who help make this event and all our events a reality. A special thank you to the hosts of the rooftop reception Pine Grove, SRI/The Ranch, and Prescott House- what a lovely evening! We also appreciate the Pine Grove co-hosting with IITAP the cupcake reception in celebration of the 30th anniversary of Dr. Patrick Carnes’ book that started it all, Out of the Shadows: understanding sexual addiction. Last but not least, thank you to the dedicated IITAP staff who welcomed this record breaking (by a significant number) group! For those of you who missed the Symposium, the DVDs are now available for purchase. You may place an order by completing the order form . Save the date for the 9th Annual IITAP Symposium which will be held February 20-22, 2014. We have officially outgrown the Hotel Valley Ho in Scottsdale, AZ, but have identified a venue in the area which will work well for us next year. The sweetie event was a winner. The feedback was positive and it sounds like the events were transformational for many. We will, therefore, be offering this opportunity again next year. Because of your feedback, we will offer the sweeties and their significant others more opportunities to be with both Stefanie and Patrick Carnes. We are pleased to have two offerings of the Module 1 training coming up soon. The first offering will be April 17-21st in Scarborough, Ontario hosted by Bellwood Treatment Center. We have obtained CEUs from CACCF for this training series so this will directly benefit our Canadian participants. The second offering for Module 1 training will take place May 29-June 2nd in Santa Fe, NM hosted by Life Healing Center. Training space is limited. So, if you or a colleague are interested, we’d encourage you to submit your paperwork soon. The information is available on http://www.iitap.com/events/ sex-addiction-workshops/98-csat-module-1-training . We are also excited to announce that we will be offering a full training series in The Netherlands hosted by SolutionS beginning September 30, 2013 with Module 2 offered most likely in March of 2014 http://www.iitap.com/events/sex-addiction-workshops/98-csat-module-1-training. U.S. Journal Training, Inc. is hosting The 1st International Conference on Sex & Love Addiction April 4-6th in Brooklyn, NY http://www.usjt.com/2013/353/index.aspx. This is a collaborative effort to: • provide a stage for the exchange of ideas about how the international community is providing education and treatment for sexual addiction • begin an international dialogue on the impact of cybersex • disseminate information on the most up to date tools and research on the assessment and treatment of sex addiction • provide collaboration across associations and professional organizations to further the knowledge and reduce the stigma of sex addiction Be part of the inaugural event by registering at http://www.usjt.com/products/210sex_love_addiction_new_york_april_2013.aspx. We are planning to offer again the Financial and Work Disorder CMAT training later this year. Bonnie DenDooven did a great job with this in September 2012 and we’ve had a number of requests for another training like this. When we have details, we’ll definitely let everyone know. At the Symposium, I was hearing so many “somebody said” statements and made the “announcement” not to listen to “somebody” as they may not have been well informed. Just to clarify a few of the things “somebody said” during the Symposium: • We do not require attendance at the CSAT Refresher. We highly encourage it for those who went through the training two or more years ago as the materials change rapidly. Those from my Desk Tami VerHelst, Vice President attending find the information valuable and it counts towards the 15 IITAP CEUs. Dr. Patrick Carnes mentioned that he has learned more in the past six months than the previous six years. We want our CSAT community to be at the cutting edge. • You are not required to attend the IITAP Symposium. You are required to have 15 IITAP CEUs during your two year certification period. This can be achieved by attending the CSAT Refresher, IITAP Symposium, CMAT trainings or any of the CSAT modules – using them as a refresher. Feel free to visit the IITAP listserv archives for more clarification on this. • The balance of the CEUs can be from any legitimate CEU provider (NAADAC, NASW, APA, NBCC, etc.) and SASH is definitely part of this. If you hear something that doesn’t sound quite right, please ask. We are happy to clarify and clear up any confusion. As always, if we can be of assistance, don’t hesitate to call our office at 480-575-6853 or e-mail me at [email protected]. With gratitude, Tami Updates & Reminders CSAT 12 step meeting - There is a 12-Step Phone Meeting held Tuesdays at 11:00am PST. The only requirements for attending this meeting are 1) you are an ASAT/CSAT or CSAT-Candidate and 2) you are in recovery from sex addiction or the partner of a sex addict. For more information about this meeting or to receive the phone number and access code, contact Tim at [email protected] or Samantha at [email protected]. Host a Training Workshop - If your organization is in interested in hosting an IITAP training or workshop, or having a private training for yourselves please contact Tami VerHelst at [email protected] or call 480-575-6853 for details. If you are an ASAT/CSAT or Candidate and offer group sessions for clients, you may list those by logging into www.iitap.com and adding the information to post on www.sexhelp.com. This is a great way for potential clients to find group opportunities. Remember to Renew - We send email reminders about your renewal beginning approximately 60 days prior to the expiration date. Beginning two weeks after the expiration we will remove your name from the websites for referral. Don’t lose your opportunities for new clients - keep your certification current! The renewal form on www.iitap.com under “Resources” or the combined CSAT and Supervisor renewal is under “Forms and Materials”. Spring Into the Gentle Path Press Bookstore for Incredible Savings Spring is fast approaching and time to showcase some of our favorite Gentle Path Press non-workbook titles. Visit our website at www.gentlepath.com for specific deals! Here’s a sampling of what we have to offer. And being a CSAT/ASAT or CSAT/ASAT Candidate gives you even deeper discounts when you log in to receive the special CSAT pricing using your account. Also, get FREE shipping and handling on orders over $100 (if shipped within the United States)! Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships http:// www.gentlepath.com/product.php?productid=62&cat=15&page=3 (Gentle Path Press, 2012) helps women break free from the chains of addictive relationships that sabotage happiness and self-respect. Regularly $18.95, now $12.95; bundle up, buy 4, get one free, that’s $10.36 per book! The Problem Was Me: How to End Negative Self-Talk and Take Your Life to a New Level http://www.gentlepath.com/product.php? productid=2&cat=15&page=1 (Gentle Path Press, 2011) is a motivational can-do guide to putting aside negative self-talk and taking one’s life to the next level. Learn more about the author and his unique approach to recovery at: http://www.thomasgagliano.com/. Regularly $16.95, now $9.95, bundle up, buy 4, get one free, that’s $7.96! Pairs well with Patrick Carnes’ Facing the Shadow http://www.gentlepath.com/product.php? productid=8&page=1. A House Interrupted: A Wife’s Story of Recovering from Her Husband’s Sex Addiction is a can’t put it down read about a wife’s devastating discovery that her physician husband is a sex addict. Regularly $16.95, now $13.56, bundle up, buy 4, get one free, that’s $10.84 per book! http:// www.gentlepath.com/product.php?productid=2&page=1 Clergy Sexual Misconduct: A Systems Approach to Prevention, Intervention, and Oversight (Gentle Path Press, 2011) After years of research into the dynamics of faith communities and the devastation created by sexual misconduct, authors John Thoburn and Rob Baker have written and compiled a seminal work teaming with 14 contributing, expert authors in this area; intended not only to treat devastated communities, but more importantly prevent the occurrence of sexual misconduct. Regularly $24.95, now $14.97; bundle up, buy 4, get one free, that’s $10.37 per book! http://www.gentlepath.com/product.php?productid=4 Our Classic Carnes Resources are Also On Sale! Free shipping and handling on all U.S. orders over $100! Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, second edition http:// www.gentlepath.com/product.php?productid=64&cat=15&page=1 (Gentle Path Press, 2013) shows how gay men can recover from sex addiction in a technological world with more and more temptations. Regularly $18.95, now $15.16, bundle up, buy 4, get one free, that’s $12.12 per book! Connection and Healing: A 200-Day Journey into Recovery http://www.gentlepath.com/ product.php?productid=5&cat=15&page=1 is a great companion to Recovery Zone, volume 1. Regularly 24.95, now $7.00; bundle up, buy 4, get 4 more free, that’s $3.50 per book! Disclosing Secrets: When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal. First edition http:// www.gentlepath.com/product.php?productid=6&cat=15&page=2 (Gentle Path Press, 2002) is a book that exclusively discusses the essential steps sex addicts need to take for a proper disclosure. Regularly $23.95, now $8.00; bundle up, buy 4, get 1 more free, that’s $6.40 per book! In Search of Recovery: A Christian Man’s Guide http://www.gentlepath.com/product.php? productid=10&page=1 and In Search of Recovery Workbook: A Christian Man’s Guide http://www.gentlepath.com/product.php?productid=11&page=1 (Gentle Path Press 2010) provide step-by-step guidance to end destructive thinking and habits that fuel sex addiction. Originally priced at $19.95 each, now purchase together as a bundle for $9.95 for BOTH; purchase 4 bundles and receive 4 more bundles free, that’s $7.96 per bundle! Mending A Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts http:// www.gentlepath.com/product.php?productid=38&cat=15&page=2 (Gentle Path Press, 2011) is an essential resource for partners of sex addicts, whether they decide to stay in the relationship or leave. It’s a perfect companion to the workbook, Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts http://www.gentlepath.com/product.php? productid=66&cat=15&page=2 (Gentle Path Press, 2012). Regularly $19.95, now $17.95; bundle up, buy 4, get 1 more free, that’s $14.36 per book! Thirty Days to Hope & Freedom: the Essential Guide to Beginning Recovery and Preventing Relapse http://www.gentlepath.com/product.php? productid=21&cat=15&page=4 (Gentle Path Press, 2011) is a 30 day approach to long-term recovery both men and women struggling with sexual sobriety. Regularly $21.95, now $9.00; bundle up, buy 4, get 1 more free, that’s $7.20! Sale ends when Spring begins April 1st so get ready to spring into savings today! Order all your favorite recovery books at www.gentlepath.com! The prices listed here and on www.gentlepath.com are BEFORE your 25% CSAT discount! You will see your savings reflected at checkout. Don’t forget FREE shipping and handling on ALL orders over $100 if shipped within the United States. You don’t need a code for this. If you are a CSAT/ASAT, log in the bookstore before placing your order to get your additional discount. From the Gentle Path Press Editor’s Desk It was so great meeting many of you at the 8th annual IITAP Symposium in February. It was nice to put names to faces. And I got to talk about some of my favorite things – our Gentle Path Press books and some of your book ideas for future publications. This is truly when I’m in my glory—surrounded by books and people who love them. Crawling under tables, hauling boxes of books, and tripping on cardboard boxes, not so much! We just had a recap meeting about the IITAP Symposium. Be ready for some great improvements in 2014 starting with a new venue with plenty of room for perusing our books and leisurely author book signings. Something new we would definitely like to implement is a plan for CSAT authors to be able to showcase their books at the bookstore. Gentle Path Press only has the resources to publish three to four books per year. We receive an abundance of fantastic proposals that we’re simply not able to publish. It’s nice to see when CSATs with really great book ideas either self-publish or find another publisher home. It is my hope that you’ll be successful no matter who you publish with. Stay tuned. We’ll start advertising for published authors on the IITAP Listserv this summer for people who are interested in doing this and roll out a process for doing so. At the IITAP Symposium we had our newest “hot off the press” book: Cruise Control: understanding sex addiction in gay men http://www.gentlepath.com/product.php? productid=64 written by Robert Weiss. It is available as an e-book too: https:// www.ebookit.com/books/0000002360/ Cruise-Control-Understanding-SexAddiction-in-Gay-Men.html . It’s been fun reconnecting with Rob since I was his editor on his first book that he co-authored with Jennifer Schneider, “Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession?” (Hazelden, 2001). Back in 2001, we had no idea where technology would take is in the future and how that would specifically impact sex addiction. Cruise Control does a great job of showing how recovery is possible in this digital age. Being relatively new to the CSAT community, I wanted to comment about the sense of community I felt during the IITAP Symposium. You could see the camaraderie among the participants and their passion for recovery. The books and other resources we provide at Gentle Path Press are just one way to contribute to this amazing group of CSATs and their clients. Corrine Casanova Senior Editor Gentle Path Press The SDI 4.0 Has Arrived! Short Video Tutorial Available Now 4.0 We are pleased to announce the release of the Sexual Dependency Inventory (SDI) 4.0. It is now available for you to use with yourclients. There is a 27 minute tutorial uploaded onto our website that discusses the new changes. If you were at Stefanie’s presentation at the IITAP Symposium in February, this tutorial will be redundant, but can be used as a refresher. Go to: http://www.iitap.com/resources/training-material/csat-forms-a-info The password to the video is in all capital letters and case sensitive: IITAP Right next to the link is the new SDI manual and two fully endorsed reports (one female client, one male client - the new report scoring is gender specific based on population means for males vs females). You may choose to print up one of the reports and the powerpoints in the presentation to follow along. All CSATS have been given two free tokens for the SDI 4.0. Our plan is to give you two weeks to view the tutorial and use your free tokens. Then, we will migrate your SDI 3.0 tokens to version 4.0 on Monday, March 25th. If you need additional 4.0 tokens, you may purchase one or two to tide you over or, if you prefer, we can help you migrate your tokens earlier. If you do not want your tokens migrated, you can email the office staff at [email protected]. If you have any questions or concerns about the SDI 4.0 please contact Andy Cline, MA, CSAT at [email protected] If you are comfortable reading the SDI 3.0 you will most likely find it very easy to transition to the new assessment. There are some really neat added features, so we anticipate most of you will want to transition to the new version as soon as possible. Thank you! We hope you enjoy the new version of the instrument! Useful Resource - the IITAP Bulletin Board The IITAP bulletin board was developed specifically to advertise and locate: • Supervisor group postings • Roommate/rideshare for events • Job postings • Job requests Visit iitap.com http://www.iitap.com/bulletinboard to view or create a post. 2013 IITAP Symposium The 8th Annual IITAP Symposium, “Facing Changes, Facing Challenges and Facing Our Future” took place February 14-16, 2013 in Scottsdale, AZ at the Hotel Valley Ho. Enjoy these photos from the event! 2013 IITAP Symposium 2013 IITAP Symposium 2013 IITAP Symposium Scottsdale, Arizona Great News for Our International Friends and Colleagues! Gentle Path Press just signed a contract for international distribution of most of our Gentle Path Press books. If you are located outside the United States or Canada, you can now order through http://www.eurospanbookstore.com/gentlepath. We now send to over 165 countries worldwide! Because Eurospan has a warehouse in the UK, shipping costs are likely to be a lot less than if you ordered from the United States. In fact, the shipping and handling from Eurospan is often FREE if you are located in the UK. The books are discounted on the website, but an extra bonus is if you use the code auth at checkout in the discount code box, you get an additional 15% off. Because of our agreement with Eurospan, most of our books can also be found on amazon at: http:// www.amazon.co.uk/. Canadian friends and colleagues can purchase our books on http://www.amazon.ca/ . CONGRATULATIONS & Welcome New ASATs and CSATs We welcome the following new members to the community... ASAT CSAT $ C New ASAT Allan Katz New CSATs Sam Ammann Jane Braun Dean Fazekas Sylva Frock Gregory Futral Linda Goldsmith Janie Lacy Jes Montgomery Christina Ryan Carol Siebert Taruno Steffensen Steve Tryling Mark White Earning IITAP Bucks You may earn $100 in IITAP Bucks for each person you refer into the CSAT Training Program. Simply ask the applicant to fill in your name on their CSAT Training Application where it asks “How did you learn of the CSAT Training Program? Upon their completion of Module 1 Training you will receive a credit memo that can be used towards event and training registrations and IITAP audio/ video, Recovery Zone Tokens as well as Gentle Path Book purchases. Contact us prior to ordering when using your IITAP Bucks to ensure your credit. Contact us for more details. Copyright Infringement is a Crime Did you know that it is a copyright infringement to photocopy copyrighted content without permission from the Publisher? If you are copying materials from Gentle Path Press Publication (Recovery Start Kit, Facing the Shadow, Recovery Zone, etc.) to use without written permission, it is not only illegal, it is unethical and prosecutable by law. Please make sure you are not violating your ethics requirements by doing this. Thank you. Networking Groups Check out this list of networking groups for ASAT/CSAT and Candidates. If you are interested in helping form a group in your area please email Tami VerHeist at [email protected] or call 480-575-6853. This is a great opportunity to network, support each other and share information. Northern California www.ncpasat.com Southern California Illinois Nashville, TN Sandy Weiser  [email protected] and Marty Simpson-Revell [email protected] Hedy Tan, 312-335-1428 Tom Knowles-Bagwell, 615-972-7652 Phoenix, AZ Marcus Earle, 480-947-5739 Tucson, AZ Sherry Simon-Heldt, [email protected] Northeast US Jim Bresnahan, [email protected] Washington, DC Wisconsin Patricia Fahey, [email protected] Roger Northway, [email protected] UK/Europe Jenny Dew, [email protected] Colorado Michael Barta, [email protected] Portland, OR Catherine Cooney, [email protected] Dallas, TX North Carolina Cole Adams, [email protected] Patricia Catanio, [email protected] quick response call 919-260-1243 New York, NY Bart Mandell, [email protected] Atlanta, GA Michael Dunn, [email protected] The IITAP Professional Listserv - A Valuable Resource! The IITAP Listserv is a private place where a focused group of professionals who treat sex addiction can freely share, support and recommend. There is a wealth of knowledge and practice experience from an informed base of talented therapists. We are very pleased with the level of professionalism displayed overall and appreciate the valuable information and support it is providing. Once you are an ASAT/CSAT or Candidate, you qualify to be part of our Listserv. If you already are an ASAT/CSAT or Candidate and are not currently receiving the listserv e-mails, please e-mail [email protected] to request to be added. A digest version which provides one e-mail per day is available as a choice, permitting you to scan through a single email each day to see what you find relevant for you and your practice. A reminder that what is posted on this Listserv is deemed private for the Listserv. Please do not forward or repost on another Listserv without seeking and obtaining permission from the person who originally posted it on the IITAP Listserv. Contact IITAP P.O. Box 2112 Carefree, Arizona 85377 • office: (866) 575-6853 • fax: (480) 595-4753 • email: [email protected] Tami VerHelst Vice President [email protected] Administrative Staff Jody Leaf [email protected] Crystal Evans [email protected] www.IITAP.com If you would like to unsubscribe from this newsletter, please send a message with “do not subscribe” in the subject area of the e-mail to [email protected].
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