THE SUNDAY TELEGRAPH | SUNDAY, AUGUST 11, 2013 | www.nashuatelegraph.com E-5 �Bullied’ looks at reasons, solutions to societal epidemic crafted an insightful and thought-provoking primer Correspondent designed to help young “Bullied: Why you feel people cope with this bad inside and what to do growing problem. Mayfield’s sensitivity about it,” by Katherine Mayfield; Maine Authors seeps into every page, as Publishing; soft cover; 89 she guides readers through an examination of why pages; $10.95. some people become bullies, and how it crushes a person’s self-esteem. What Like a lot of people, every now and then, I read was particularly illuminating to me is how she a book that really strikes deftly shines a light on the a chord in me, and that sobering fact that people resonates in a way that often carry the childhood stays with me long after scars of being preyed upon I’ve finished the last page. “Bullied,” by Maine author by others with them into adulthood; how rebuilding Katherine Mayfield, is one’s self-esteem after besuch a book. Although it ing made to feel unworthy is short in length, it is a and hopeless is a daunting book that speaks volumes challenge. with respect to addressing There were several secwhat has become a raging tions that found me caught epidemic across all levels in the grip of the gnawing of our society: bullying. feeling of “What would For anyone who ever I have done if this hapfound themselves at the pened to me? How would I mercy of a bully, or who have found the courage to is a parent that has lived handle it at such a young through the heartbreak of and vulnerable age?” Well, watching their child being Mayfield not only delves bullied, Mayfield’s latest offering is definitely a book into the causes and effects to have front and center on of such scenarios, but she also leads victims down a your shelves. path of recovery to a place The author, who was where they can overcome bullied and picked-on as a child by her parents and by feelings that have tormented them, and finally schoolmates, writes with realize a happier and more authority and sensitivity, fulfilling life. She provides for she knows her subject a roadmap that shows the matter all too well. victims of bullying that As such, she has By PAUL COLLINS The cover of “Bullied” by Katherine Mayfield. peace of mind is not out of reach. Asked if there was an emotional safe-haven she employed as a coping mechanism to escape the torment of being bullied as a child, she says, “I’m sorry to say there wasn’t, though I wish there had been. Because of that, I ended up living through a �false-self’ in my childhood – which meant being, thinking and doing exactly what my parents wanted in order to feel safe. I was the quintessential doormat.” She goes on to say, “I think most people who are in this position don’t even realize they’re not living an authentic life, because the �facade’ is all they’ve ever known.” Mayfield contends that in many instances, bullies prey upon others as a means to make themselves feel stronger; that the act of tormenting others actually fills a need in them and makes them somehow feel better about who they are. In response to how she feels today, as an adult, when she sees or hears about others who find themselves in the throes of being bullied she offered, “I wish I could stand right beside that person, look into their eyes, and say, �This has nothing to do with you, or with who you are. The bully (or abuser) is just trying to feel more powerful and it doesn’t mean in any way, shape or form that there is anything wrong with you.’” It bears reiterating that where this subject matter is concerned, this author writes, not only with sensitivity and brutal honesty, but also with a firm grasp of the human condition. As a former actress who appeared off-Broadway and on the daytime drama, “Guiding Light,” Mayfield seems to have an actress’ uncanny understanding of what’s inside of people, and how to tap into it. The information in this book will give readers a BEST-SELLERS HARDCOVER FICTION 1. “The Cuckoo’s Calling,” Robert Galbraith. 2. “The Ocean at the End of the Lane,” Neil Gaiman. 3. “And the Mountains Echoed,” Khaled Hosseini. 4. “Inferno,” Dan Brown. 5. “Gone Girl,” Gillian Flynn. HARDCOVER NONFICTION 1. “Zealot,” Reza Aslan. 2. “Let’s Explore Diabetes With Owls,” David Sedaris. 3. “This Town,” Mark Leibovich. 4. “Lean In,” Sheryl Sandberg. 5. “I Could Pee on This,” Francesco Marciuliano. PAPERBACK FICTION 1. “Beautiful Ruins,” Jess Walter. 2. “Where’d You Go, Bernadette,” Maria Semple. 3. “The Casual Vacancy,” J.K. Rowling. 4. “Flight Behavior,” Barbara Kingsolver. 5. “The Orphan Master’s Son,” Adam Johnson. PAPERBACK NONFICTION 1. “Wild,” Cheryl Strayed. 2. “Proof of Heaven,” Eben Alexander, M.D. 3. “Quiet,” Susan Cain. 4. “Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns),” Mindy Kaling. 5. “Hallucinations,” Oliver Sacks. – The Indie Best-seller List is based on reporting from hundreds of independent bookstores across the United States. For an independent bookstore near you, visit www.IndieBound.org. great awareness of, and sensitivity to, the bully cycle. More importantly, perhaps it will serve as a catalyst for both parents and educators to gain the knowledge and understanding needed to prevent it. “Bullied” is a compelling and insightful expose into the damage bullying can do to a child’s self-esteem, and of some measures that can be taken to stop it. some learning experience for students. Engineering, earth sciences, programming and technology will be the focus. The club will meet twice a week to learn about the First Lego League challenge, build a robot, perfect the missions, have lots of fun, work on team building and train for a tournament. The team will also work on public speaking and a research presentation. The grant will fund all of the equipment and registration fees. Interested parents, coaches, mentors and children should email the director at cchronopoulos@pelhamweb. com ASAP. Space is limited. For announcements about the club, visit pelhampublic library.org/clubs/pelham roboticsclub. Paul Collins is a freelance writer from Southborough, Massachusetts. LIBRARY HAPPENINGS NASHUA Nashua Public Library, 2 Court St., 589-4600, carol.eyman@ nashualibrary.org, www.nashua library.org. BACH’S LUNCH CONCERTS The Bach’s Lunch Concert Series, a Nashua Public Library tradition, are held from noon-1 p.m. Wednesdays in the library’s Music, Art and Media Wing. Free. Concerts are not appropriate for children younger than 5. Concert schedule: Aug. 14: New England String Quartet. The New England String Quartet concert is sponsored by the Zylonis Fund, whose mission is to promote the appreciation of Lithuanian culture in the Nashua area. The concert program will include works by Lithuanian composers. Other members of the group include violinist Joshua Addison, violist Lilit Muradyan and cellist Ming-Hui Lin. The musicians have won international competitions in the United States and abroad. SUMMER CONCERTS ON THE PLAZA Six young, innovative bands will make their Nashua Public Library debuts this year at Summer Concerts on the Plaza at at 7 p.m. Thursdays The theme of the series is “Discoveries.” Performances, part of Nashua’s SummerFun program, are free. Held indoors in event of inclement weather. The final concert in the Nashua Public Library’s Summer Concerts on the Plaza series, on Aug. 15, will feature the Wayne Pearcy Jazz Quintet. Trumpeter and composer Wayne Pearcy is best known in the jazz community for placing second globally as a soloist at the International Trumpet Guild College Jazz Competition in 2011. Pearcy’s rich tone and lyrical style have earned him studies with some heavy hitters in jazz, including Tiger Okoshi, Darren Barrett, and Wynton Marsalis. His advocacy for assistive technology at Berklee College of Music has helped the school become a top destination for visually impaired students from around the world. Pearcy’s combo aims to update the tradition of the jazz quintet from the perspective of a new generation. The group was recently featured at Berklee’s Trumpet Weekend and on Harvard Univer- MOVIE RATINGS Motion Picture Association of America rating definitions: G GENERAL AUDIENCES All Ages Admitted. PG PG-13 R NC17 PARENTAL GUIDANCE SUGGESTED Some material may not be suitable for children. SPECIAL PARENTAL GUIDANCE STRONGLY SUGGESTED FOR CHILDREN UNDER 13. Some material may be inappropriate for young children. RESTRICTED Under 17 requires accompanying parent or adult guardian. NO ONE UNDER 17 ADMITTED sity’s radio station, WHRB. Joining Pearcy at the library concert are Aaron Gratzmiller on sax, Abraham Olivo on piano, Tabari Lake on bass, and Fabio Rojas on drum set. ADULT SUMMER READING PROGRAM Through Aug. 11, each time you read a book or attend a “Groundbreaking Reads” event, you can earn a raffle ticket. To register, go to www. nashualibrary.org/asr. Raffle prizes have been donated by the Friends of the Nashua Public Library. They include gift certificates to the Friends book sale, Barnes and Noble, and MT’s Local Kitchen; a pair of $25 tickets to a private “Beyond the Book” reception with the Nashua Reads author, and an Apple iPad. Everyone earns a prize after reading five, 10 and 25 books. “Groundbreaking Reads” events include: ■“Bringing the Undead to Life in Fiction”: 7 p.m. Aug. 15. Join members of Broad Universe, a group that celebrates female authors, as they talk about the popularity of the undead in horror and fantasy fiction. At the beginning of the program, winners of the Adult Summer Reading program raffle will be announced. HUDSON George H. and Ella M. Rodgers Memorial Library, 194 Derry Road, 886-6030, askus@rodgerslibrary. org, www.rodgerslibrary.org. Milford Twin Drive-In Route 101A , Milford, N.H. 673-4090 OPEN EVERY NIGHT Movie Listings for Thurs.-Wed. 8/8/13-8/14/13 Screen 1 PLANES (PG) THE SMURFS 2 (PG) Screen 2 PERCY JACKSON: SEA OF MONSTERS (PG) DESPICABLE ME 2 (PG) www.MilfordDriveIn.com %2$5',1*+286(3$5. )5(1&+67'2:172:1/2:(// 8/15 Railroad Earth 5DLOURDG(DUWK 8/17 Josh Ritter & -RVK5LWWHU The Royal City Band 7KH5R\DO&LW\%DQG 8/23 Great Big Sea *UHDW%LJ6HD 8/30 Joshua Radin -RVKXD5DGLQ 8/31 Solas 6RODV 9/7 34th Annual Banjo WK$QQXDO%DQMR & Fiddle Contests )LGGOH&RQWHVWV Noon - 6PM, Free to compete & attend 1RRQ30)UHHWRFRPSHWHDWWHQG Wed&ThurlOAM-Noon :HG7KXU$01RRQ 8/14 Peter Panic 3HWHU3DQLF 8/15 Airborne Comedians $LUERUQH&RPHGLDQV ,1)2 7,;086,&9,'(26,1)2$7 /2:(//6800(5086,&25* FREE FRIDAY FILM FESTIVAL The library will host a Free Friday Film Festival at 7 p.m. every Friday from through Aug. 23. 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